Anger Management?

By November 29, 2010 Blog

An article in today’s Daily Mail (29 November), suggests that our binge-drinking culture is creating ‘a generation of aggressive and out-of-control women’. According to the British Association of Anger Management, the number of women found guilty of murder, vicious assault or other attacks has risen by 81 per cent since 1998.  As Simon Lawton Smith of the Mental Health Foundation claims, ‘girls face a new generation of potential triggers for problems such as premature sexualisation, commercialisation and alcohol misuse, and …Read More

Children and Self-Harm

By November 29, 2010 Blog

Just reading a disturbing article in today’s Sunday Times. According to the NSPCC, the number of children it counsels about suicide has risen threefold in some areas since 2003.  Figures obtained by the Times for hospital admissions over the past decade suggest that ‘even small children may feel such despair that they attempt suicide…in 2008-9 six toddlers aged four or less were taken to hospital as a result of intentional self-harm.  Twenty children aged between five and nine were admitted …Read More

The Helper’s High

By November 29, 2010 Blog

I’ve been reading about a book by Allan Luks, called ‘The Healing Power of Doing Good’. According to Luks, over millions of years our bodies have developed a mechanism whereby we are rewarded when we do good. He argues that, having learnt the value of ‘cooperation’ as a ‘good survival strategy’, being nice to others produces what’s known as the ‘helper’s high’. The hormonal equivalent of a well done me, every time I do something kind for someone else. This …Read More

Let’s Talk About Sex

By November 29, 2010 Blog

Ha – thought that might get your attention.  Never let it be said that my blog solicits cheap hits, eh? You filthy-minded lot. So, I’m sitting in a cafe and in front of me there’s an enormous TV screen playing music videos on a loop.  What’s on? Well, currently I’m eyeballing four or five gurning, gyrating girls.  I say eyeballing, but actually the view is slightly lower than that – all hot pants, bosoms, lippy, latex and glitter.  Funnily enough, …Read More

Dear Me

By November 29, 2010 Blog

If you could go back in time and write a note to yourself ten, maybe twenty years ago, what would you say? Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give to you? What feelings are aroused as you consider yourself all that time ago? Here’s a few ‘letters to myself’ from people you may have heard of.. ‘It is the early Nineties and you are frustrated, exhausted and worried sick. Life at this moment is not great. Yet …Read More

Living In The Moment

By November 29, 2010 Blog

As I read and write about addiction and idolatry, I’m challenged by the ways in which these are still such struggles in my own life. So often, I find myself saying to the Lord, ‘stop teaching me this! I’ve got it! I hear you – and this time I’ve changed. Honest. That whole pride thing- I got it covered. If I get really stuck, I’ll give you a shout.  And as for patience – that was last week’s issue. Time …Read More

The God Who Gives

By November 29, 2010 Blog

I don’t know about you, but when I read about the Lord in Scripture, so often I’m struck by the contrast between the lies I tell myself about Him and the truth about who He is. On the one hand, I construct a very little god, who is ineffectual and irrelevant. Someone who does exactly what I want. Or else I look to a big, impersonal lump of heavenly stuff who demands slavish obedience and works and doesn’t know that I …Read More

Lies

By November 29, 2010 Blog

I HATE Eating Disorders. As I write this, one of my new friends is wrestling with anorexia. She is a beautiful, talented Christian girl who is a blessing to me and to many others. She knows it is wrong. She knows it is out of control. But she can’t stop herself. She’s been starving herself and exercising non-stop and taking slimming pills and laxatives. ECGs and blood tests show that she is now on the point of collapse. Her body …Read More

Nice Girls Finish Last

By November 29, 2010 Blog

Word Power I’ve always loved words. The shape of them, the curves and curls, the way that they contain and communicate meaning, in so many different ways. But this multiplicity means they’re also slippery little customers. Or as Eliot puts it, ‘Words strain, Crack and sometimes break, under the burden, Under the tension, slip, slide, perish, Decay with imprecision, will not stay in place, Will not stay still.’ (Burnt Norton) Language carries with it lots of baggage, – associations and echoes.  As a …Read More

What’s the Story?

By November 29, 2010 Blog

My husband’s a big fan of the American actor/comic Will Ferrell. A few months ago we watched one of his films, ‘Stranger than Fiction’. In it, Ferrell plays a guy who realises that he’s not who he thought he was, an ordinary bloke. Instead, he discovers that he is actually a character in a book. The book is being written by a best-selling author and in a bid to overcome her writer’s block, she plans to kill him off. The …Read More