Step Away From The Dog Collar

By December 20, 2010 Blog

Have you ever played Encouragement Pingpong? It’s an amazing new game that’s taking churches by storm. Fun for all the family and you can have as many players as you like. You don’t need any special equipment. Just tenacity, a basic grasp of English and, most importantly, hours of free time. But be careful who you play. Ministers are particularly adept at swingballing your compliments, after years spent finely honing their craft. Many’s the pale-faced rookie who’s punched above their …Read More

Out Damned Spot

By December 20, 2010 Blog

When thinking about mental health problems it helps to think of ourselves all on the same spectrum. So, for instance, you might think of self-harm as ‘really weird’.  Maybe it’s a way of thinking and acting that seems completely alien to you.  But as we’ve talked about before, isn’t ‘I’m an idiot!’ self-talk a kind of self-harm? And what about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)?  Is that just for nut-bars, or might there be a teensy bit of OCD in you …Read More

Survival Tactics

By December 20, 2010 Blog

(in no particular order) 1. Well, except maybe this one. Get some quality time in with the Lord. It doesn’t have to be in the morning, but last thing at night is maybe pushing it. I’ve tried this and I don’t think prayer and/or Bible study work quite as well by osmosis. Also, if you sleep drool, (I know, none of us do, but let’s say a ‘friend’ does), then it makes the pages stick together. A ‘quiet time’ is …Read More

When Too Much Isn’t Enough

By December 15, 2010 Blog, identity

I was reading yesterday about learning the secret of contentment in Christ. As Paul writes, this peace is independent of circumstances or possessions, ‘whether I have less than I need, or whether I have more’. Culturally, I think everyone can identify with the fear of having too little – what’s maybe more interesting is the threat posed by having too much.   Share…

Stuff the Turkey

By December 15, 2010 Blog

Christmas is a time of celebration and joy, right? It’s the roaring log fire, the camaraderie, you and your family laughing together over charades, wrapped up warm in your fleecy pjs and squabbling good-naturedly over the last Quality Street. (Inevitably, in our house anyway, the last choc is always one of those revolting fruit flavoured ones – who likes them? If I want a piece of fruit I’ll have an apple. Otherwise it’s the green triangle or the squashy one …Read More

Ain’t That A Man?

By December 15, 2010 Blog

Although eating disorders are more common in women, they’re a big issue for guys too. Many of the risk factors for men and women are the same – body fascism, for example, is just as pervasive in the pages of ‘Men’s Health’ as it is in ‘Cosmo’. Consider too, the purposes of an eating disorder – to deal with emotional conflict or stress, to create identity, to exercise control. These are human, rather than female concerns. And I wonder if …Read More

The Biggest Loser

By December 15, 2010 Blog

Why it is so difficult to overcome addictions? Our world is full of recovery programmes and centres, new advances in medicine mean that we understand more about our biology than ever before and we have more resources at our disposal with which to fight them. But victory seems far from even the expert’s grasp. The dynamics of our sinful hearts mean that, as individuals, we are easily enslaved – but there’s more to it than that. Scripture speaks of the …Read More

Full Life

By December 15, 2010 Blog

What does ‘life to the full’ look like?  (John 10:10) I would attempt to answer this, but the evidence of my life so far shows that I have absolutely no idea. And I suspect that none of us do. I don’t feel unsure about what I need.  My brain sends me half-hourly updates, all presaged with a red light flashing ‘urgent’ and ‘essential’.  And dear help anyone or anything who stands in the way.  Because by doing so, they are …Read More

Sick? Sinners?

By December 15, 2010 Blog

Continuing on from a recent post on whether eating disorders are sin or sickness… I was going to write a bit more about this today, but after reading M’s brilliant comment I think the most helpful thing to do is to publish it instead. Here’s what she says; I was reading John 9 and I wonder if that could help a little. The disciples ask Jesus who sinned and Jesus’ reply begins: ‘it is not that this man sinned, or …Read More

Baby Steps

By December 15, 2010 Blog

One of the ways ED ‘work’ are by repressing feelings and thoughts that feel very threatening. A big part of recovery is therefore not just regaining weight, but finding healthy ways of dealing with and expressing these emotions. Recovery is also about getting in touch with who you are or who you want to be. For many of us, that’s the problem! We have no idea. But with practice and prayer, we can move forward. Not towards who we think we should …Read More