True Story

By April 30, 2012 Blog

Once upon a time, there lived a couple called Glen and Emma. Glen and Emma lived in a big town but Glen had to find a job.  Glen was very worried about Emma because Emma was very sick. She didn’t want to move to the seaside town because she was frightened of meeting new people and going to a new place. But God brought them to a church full of lovely, warm-hearted Christians who looked after them and loved them …Read More

Thirsty?

By April 29, 2012 Blog

How do you help an addict? If you’re an addict, how do you help yourself? It’s easy to judge. It’s easy to justify. Is there a place that’s in-between? Can we go beyond the caricature? The tramp, sloshed on special brew? The teenage drunk, giddy with alcopops. Before we turn the lens on others, can we look at ourselves? –  if so, are we prepared for what we might see? A couple of glasses in the comfort of my own …Read More

Front Row Friendship

By April 27, 2012 Blog

Making friends is Really Hard. Not acquaintances.  Or mates.  Not people you know or wave at across the street.  Proper friends – the ones who know more about you than where you work or how many kids you’ve got. The ones who can spot when you’re about to crumble, who’ll sweep you up and stick you back together. You see, it’s relatively easy to befriend people on Facebook. To link them in or add them to your contacts list.   …Read More

Mum’s The Word. And Dad. And Grandma, and…

By April 26, 2012 Blog

Yesterday I was thinking a little about church family.  Today, I’m pondering the complicated splendour that is Family Family. And more specifically, Family Communications. Aah,  genealogy. That bloody, brilliant and brutal tapestry comprising drunken uncles and giddy aunts, skeletons in the closet (and under the floorboards), unspoken rivalries, scandal-scented moth balls, feral pets and all manner of crazy traditions, routines and general shenanigans. Not that you’d guess.  No sireee.  Aside from the occasional dark hint it’s like the rumbling of …Read More

Stuff I’m lernin.

By April 25, 2012 Blog

Church myths: 1. That everyone else has got it together. Yes, some do.  But most don’t – they’re just good at wrapping. And instead of judging you, chances are they’re worried that you are judging them. 2. That we need to keep hold of Jesus – especially in the hard times. Yes, we need to prioritise and nurture our faith. But there are times when it’s all you can do to lift your head.  And more important than the fact …Read More

Safety or Slavery?

By April 24, 2012 Blog

I’ve always been a ‘collector’.  Even when I was wee, I used to hoard  random items, shoring them up for a time when the world ran out.  There’s   safety in surplus.  My brain (and life) may be a mess, but those stacks  promise security, stability and solace. According to Paul Salkovskis, (professor of clinical psychology at Bath Uni), there are three categories of hoarder: 1. OCD hoarding. A quarter of hoarders fall into this group : they fear things …Read More

Fighting Dirty

By April 23, 2012 Blog

What’s your argument style? I’m a rhino-ostrich.  Attack! – then retreat.  Take THAT! and that! and That!  And now… I’m going to run and hide, before you have the chance to respond. Glen on the other hand, is a terrier.  He’ll sink his teeth into the argument and shake it from every angle.  He’ll sniff it and roll it and chew it and then come back to it, until it’s eyeless and legless and quivering in a  tiny knot of …Read More

Come On In?

By April 22, 2012 Blog

Back in the days when people still had dinner parties, I used to find them somewhat testing.  It was all my own fault. For starters, I’d set myself a ridiculously complicated menu.  I’d then hunt down the ingredients and spend most of the day cooking myself into a state of hysteria. Next, I’d clean.  And I mean, CLEAN. I’d straighten the tea lights, hide the dodgy CDs, take the pants off the radiators and then melt into a puddle of …Read More

Out of Order

By April 20, 2012 Blog

What makes you anxious?  And how do you deal with it?  Here’s a few of my own personal cisterns… Not having enough. Solution: binge-eating, stock-piling groceries, buying new clothes that are exactly the same as the old ones, plotting and planning. Having too much. Solution: giving everything away, clearing out (and binning) perfectly good crockery, books, clothes.  Refusing to open things that people have bought me (they’re too good, so I should save them for some imaginary future day), trying …Read More

Wise Words

By April 19, 2012 Blog

From Deborah Orr, writing in the Guardian: 10 things not to say to someone who’s ill: 1. ‘I feel so sorry for you’ ‘…Do say: “I so wish you didn’t have to go through this ghastly time.” That acknowledges that you are still a sentient being, an active participant in your own drama, not just, all of a sudden, A Helpless Victim’. 2. ‘If anyone can beat this, it’s you’ ‘…Funnily enough, it’s not comforting to be told that you …Read More