I believe myself to be boring or unattractive.
When I meet people, I remind myself of this.
I imagine that they are judging me: that they think I’m stupid or worthless or ugly.
My body language reflects my feelings. I try to cover myself up. I don’t make eye-contact. I mumble. I try to hide and escape.
Other people see me hiding and quivering. They pick up on my awkwardness and they act awkward too.
This reinforces how ugly I feel, so I behave even more oddly. Other people start avoiding me or treating me strangely.
My fears become a reality.
Whether we’re aware of it or not, every day we’re coaching ourselves. We’re telling ourselves truth or lies about
– who we are
– what we’re worth
– what we can and can’t do
– where we’re going
– how we’re feeling.
There are two kinds of coaches: good ones and bad ones.
A good coach :
can see the bigger picture.
is objective, but caring.
sets clear and achievable goals – then breaks them down into bite-sized chunks and helps you reach them
cheers you on and has hope for you even when you don’t have it for yourself
doesn’t give up
sees your potential and reminds you of it.
A bad coach:
set unachievable goals and tells you to get there instantly and by yourself
makes you feel guilty, puts you down and compares you negatively to others
looks for the negative and never gives you praise
undermines, criticises and mocks you
So here’s the question: what kind of coach are you?
what lies are you believing about yourself?
what are your goals?
Now. Think of Jesus. What does He say to you? How does this compare?
And if you listen to His voice, what difference does this make?