Ways to Win An Argument

By August 17, 2012 Blog

1. You are Right.  Never forget this. 2. Your opponent is an idiot. Talk over them. If they protest, talk louder. 3.keep interrupting.  Tell them they’re boring you and making no sense. Roll your eyes. 4. treat your adversary like a particularly stupid, deaf dog. Speak very slowly and pat them when possible. The aim is to make them very angry. 5. when they become agitated, tell them you can’t engage with someone who’s lost their temper 6.If this has …Read More

Running On Empty

By August 16, 2012 Blog

I’ve been whizzing around for the last few weeks, Being Busy. Lots of things are going well and I’ve got loads to be thankful for. But I don’t feel right. I’m pooped. And edgy. And kind-of out-of-sorts. I could say it’s because I’ve been travelling. My stomach’s playing up and I’ve been working.   I’ve been back to Belfast and it’s hard to adjust. Summer’s coming to a close and I’m nervous about the future. Those things are there. But …Read More

Getting Help for Young People

By August 15, 2012 Blog

I’ve spoken often of the importance of the church in soul care.  We mustn’t simply palm off hurting people to professionals.  We must walk with them as we seek the very best medical help.  With all that in mind, what professional help is available in the UK for young people with mental health issues? I asked an expert in the field and here’s what they advised: The main port of call is something called CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services). …Read More

Why ‘Good’ Girls Don’t Eat

By August 14, 2012 Blog

Here’s an excerpt I’ve written on ‘Eating Disorders + ‘Good’ girls’, (from this month’s ‘Woman Alive’): There are many reasons why someone develops an eating disorder. Culture, environment, physiology, life experiences and even geography may play a part. Another of these is personality type. The type I call ‘good girl’. There are, of course, sufferers who won’t fit this description. Similarly, most good girls will not develop anorexia. However, aspects of their personalities make them more vulnerable to it than …Read More

Messy Christians

By August 13, 2012 Blog

I wonder what you think a Christian should look like. For a long time I thought that to be a believer, I had to have it all together. Yes, I knew that Jesus saved me – but I figured that from that point on, it was up to me to keep going and to live a certain way. The problem was, that no matter how hard I tried, I still kept messing up. And not just in small ways – …Read More

Guest Post: On Marriage Roles

By August 12, 2012 Blog

Sorry for the erratic posting recently: I’m away at the moment and in a wi-fi desert…  normal service will resume later this week. (Also, I’m speaking at an event tomorrow and am a bit nervous, so prayers would be appreciated if you’ve any going spare…) In the meantime however, here’s a guest post from Glen, on ‘roles in marriage’… Thanks Glen! ….   Glen here. What’s the role of roles in marriage?  “Headship” and “submission” language is a hot topic. …Read More

Leading With A Limp

By August 8, 2012 Blog

For those of us lacking in beauty or brawn, language can offer salvation. From the classroom comic to the writer sheltering behind their prose – we create strongholds of speech and slice space with our mouths. This is illustrated in the film ‘Eight Mile’.  Here we meet Jimmy: a little guy who gets picked on by big ones. He wants to be a rapper.  Armed with a scalpel-sharp wit, his method  is to exploit his opponent’s weakness, by exposing it  and …Read More

Let Me Die

By August 6, 2012 Blog

Charlotte Green has  has been admitted to psychiatric hospital at least 14 times and has had anorexia since she was 19. Now aged 35, she would rather die than be resuscitated again or force-fed. Speaking to the Sunday Telegraph she said this: “The only drive I think I really had was to be thin, and then to be ill for a really long period of time – now I don’t really have a drive to do anything. ..I’ve done everything …Read More

Torch Bearers

By August 5, 2012 Blog

I hated sports at school – but even I’ve been caught up in the Olympic headlines. Yet some of the greatest victories are won outside the main stage. Speaking to the Sunday Telegraph, Ian Sockett, (one of the Olympic torch bearers), tells his story: “Four-and-a-half years ago I was lying in hospital, terrified I was about to die. I weighed about 5½st and had been anorexic for 20 years. Of course, a lot of people assume men don’t suffer from …Read More

Would I Lie To You?

By August 3, 2012 Blog

I’m realising how often I lie. Like, all the time.   Not big lies, obviously.  Little, grey ones. Fibs. They’re okay, aren’t they? Just a little truth stretching.  Taking the imagination for a wee dander.   What do I mean? “I spent four hours sourcing the right ingredients”. (Six minutes. In Asda. Eight if you include the check-out). “I’ve had these for years” (I bought them yesterday. I know we can’t afford them and I’m too ashamed to tell you) “I’m …Read More