Radio Interview

By December 13, 2012 Blog

Here’s the interview I did with UCB (in case you missed the logo). It’s 45 mins and is basically my testimony and some thoughts on eating disorders and how the church can help.  Download here Share…

Drop Dead, Rex.

By December 12, 2012 Blog

Today I’ve been walking the black dog. Generally I keep him locked in the basement.  But from time to time he breaks out – and takes me with him. You might have spotted me, yelling or throwing an imaginary bone. But I doubt you’ll have noticed him. To tell the truth, I’m not even sure he’s there. That’s the thing about depression.  It doesn’t really exist.  Or rather, it exists for other people – but not you. You know the checklist: loss of interest in normal activities, difficulty …Read More

Coming Out in Church: Part 2

By December 11, 2012 Blog

Here’s the second of a two-part guest post from Alex Tylee on her experience of being a gay Christian.  Alex – thanks so much for your wisdom and openness. Q. As a Christian experiencing same sex attraction, where can I go for help and support? A. True Freedom Trust is a really helpful Christian charity that exists to support Christians experiencing same sex attraction. They accept you as you are – it’s not a ‘healing’ ministry – and seek to …Read More

‘Coming Out’ in Church: Guest Post

By December 10, 2012 Blog

A few month’s ago, Alex Tylee, (author of ‘Walking With Gay Friends’) did a series of posts (here and here) on her experiences of being a gay Christian.  I know lots of people (me included) found these really helpful, so I’ve asked her to say a bit more.  In today’s post, she talks about ‘coming out’: Q: How do you feel about the phrase “coming out”?  Is it helpful? A: There’s a lot of debate among Christians about the language around …Read More

Christmas

By December 9, 2012 Blog

I’m not feeling it. I’ve hung up the decorations, lit the candles, bought the brandy butter and made the necessary arrangements. It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas… but without the trimmings it’s all a bit..well, turkey-ish. In part it’s about expectations.  Birthdays, Valentine’s Day and News Year’s Eve are the same.  You’re meant to have THEBESTFUNEVER because EVERYONEELSEIS. But after ten minutes of charades (literal or metaphorical) my smile starts to twitch and I long to hide under the coats till it …Read More

Caffeinated Faith

By December 7, 2012 Blog

This was originally posted as a response to ‘This House is not a Home’  but I’ve asked C if I can put it up as today’s blog, because it’s so good. Here’s what she says: “We are the church and We are the hurting. We’re the same people, but some of us are lying. God alone knows who actually belongs to Him, and He will use his people to help his people if they are willing. The only problem with churches …Read More

A Christmas Story

By December 6, 2012 Blog

She’d never been great with people, she knew that.  Even at school, it had been hard – she’d tried, but it was like being in a game where you don’t know the rules and it was safer and easier not to play. They would ask her questions and suddenly her throat would choke – she wanted to speak, but the vowels were bricked up, strangled in her tongue. Or sometimes the urge to connect would gush over her and words …Read More

Radiohead

By December 5, 2012 Blog

A while back I did an interview with UCB radio (UK), where I give my testimony and talk a bit about eating disorders and anorexia. It’s been airing this week and the last slot is tomorrow morning (probably about 10.25). If you’re interested, the whole thing will be broadcast again from 9-10pm this Saturday night, (http://www.ucb.co.uk/listen-popup/ucb-uk.html). Also here’s a link to some Bible Reflections. Over and out.         Share…

Real Men, Real Tears

By December 4, 2012 Blog

“I felt so utterly lonely.. and I couldn’t reach out to explain to people”.     “I didn’t have a name for it, I didn’t know what it was”. “It was terrifying .. I couldn’t get across how I was feeling”. “I could walk into a room full of people and it was like I was the only one there”. “I lost interest in the kids and my missus and doing things that we used to do. . . they’d ask their mum, ‘Why is Daddy …Read More

This House Is Not A Home

By December 3, 2012 Blog

Yesterday I wrote about church being a place where broken people can meet. I stand by this. But broken people don’t always get it right. Here’s the experience of a friend of mine – and maybe yours as well: I feel too awful to leave my house to get to Church. Church seems to be a place for those who have there masks on tightly, or well enough, to function at an acceptable Christian level. I can’t. My mask has …Read More