Winner Takes All?

By June 12, 2013 Blog

Our culture’s big on celebrating success. Winners: whether in sports or business or on TV. We love an underdog – but only when they triumph. People who Overcome: be it on X-factor (‘my hamster’s struggling with hair loss… so this one’s for him’) or women’s magazines (‘hubby dumped me for a younger model but I won the lottery and got a boob job so who’s laughing now?’) Problem is, most of us aren’t winners. We’re contestants who come second, third, seventh…and …Read More

What Are You Drinking?

By June 11, 2013 Blog

. ‘Drank every cup of joy, heard every trump of fame drank early, deeply drank, drank draughts which common millions might have drunk. Then died of thirst because there was no more to drink’. (Byron)   . Share…FacebookTwitterTumblrPinterestGoogle+StumbleUponDiggemail

Bad Babysitter

By June 10, 2013 Blog

Today I planned to write something Epic.  I’ve got this Stunning post on like, identity and monkeys and culture and Christianity – and science and robots and cheese. It’s life-changing and funny, but also witty and wise. There’s just one problem: I lost it. My cat ate it.I sold it and am now jetting to the Canaries with the proceeds. My brain is not co-operating.  It’s skipped out the window and is mooning me from a safe distance. Worse still, it’s …Read More

50 Shades of Green

By June 9, 2013 Blog

I’m starting to get why God invented sex. Being honest, I’ve had reservations in the past. This is despite some sterling efforts on my mum’s part to get me to loosen up, (handcuffs, chocolate body paint and wedding night wisdom that still brings me out in a cold sweat).  Sorry Mum: I like big pants and I cannot lie. Even brief nudity is too much.  And as for talking about bodily bits – well, cross the rubicon of ‘front bottom’ …Read More

Helping You, Helping Me

By June 7, 2013 Blog

One of the big theories behind personality, is something called attachment: how well as babies we do or don’t relate to our mums.  It’s argued that boys who attach insecurely to their mums will either avoid them or refuse to trust them.  Girls however go to the opposite extreme.  Instead of moving away from their mothers, even when the mums are angry or distant or depressed, they move towards them. They see it as their job to comfort them and …Read More

Carry Me

By June 6, 2013 Blog

My mum is one of the most servant-hearted people I’ve ever met (and cheerful with it).  But like many of us, she’s terrified of being a burden on others. ”When the time comes’, she insists,  ‘just pull the plug: I don’t want you wasting your life looking after me.’ Dying and being ill are scary prospects. No-one wants to have their bum wiped or to be fed or clothed. We want to be healthy and strong; remembered at our best…not …Read More

Different Ending

By June 5, 2013 Blog

A few weeks ago I wrote about a friend who went to the GP for help with disordered eating.  (See post here). Sadly, she had a very bad experience. It’s hard enough asking for support once; and no-one would blame her if she gave up there.  But she’s a very brave woman and after lots of prayer and encouragement,  went back to the same practice but with a different doctor.   Her circumstances are the same as they were last …Read More

Dear Christian

By June 4, 2013 Blog

There’s something you should know. I will always be here. I am utterly, irreversibly committed to you. I know you. I know you. And I delight in you. You are not a burden, or a time-waster or a drain or a disappointment or an inconvenience. I am not annoyed with you. I don’t want you to be someone else. When I look at you, I am delighted with what I have made. When will you see yourself as I do? …Read More

But Why? Guest Post

By June 3, 2013 Blog

Guest Post from Glen on the story of Job: So here’s the story: Job loses his wealth, his health and his family in a series of extraordinary calamities. The reader is aware – though Job is not – that the whole thing began in heaven with a kind of wager between the LORD and Satan. The LORD is proud of His servant Job and so permits truly diabolical attacks which He knows Job will endure. But the suffering is intense. …Read More

Food and Feelings

By June 2, 2013 Blog

whether you’re bigger or smaller, you’re not better.    Thin doesn’t make you purer or neater or more popular. Fat doesn’t make you funnier or jollier or better at parties. No-one cares how many squat thrusts you can do in a minute. A new size is not a new self – if you hate your mother at size 16, you’ll still hate her at size 6. there are more important issues to think about.  Like why you’re using food and making …Read More