The Original and The Best

By June 15, 2014 Blog

Whatever your experience with your earthly father, as a Christian,  this is your heavenly Father: He loves us: I led them with cords of human kindness, with ties of love. To them I was like one who lifts a little child to the cheek, and I bent down to feed them. Hosea 11:4 He knew us even in our mother’s womb: For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully …Read More

Two Voices

By June 13, 2014 Blog

Lies: the most important thing in life is not to get hurt. I’m such an idiot I may as well take refuge in the things that I know hurt me. if anyone rejects me I must be unlovable. I’m like this because I was born this way. other people must meet my needs. if I can’t do it perfectly, it’s better not to try. I can’t be happy unless I get exactly what I want if I don’t do it, …Read More

The Real You

By June 12, 2014 Blog

What are the things you dislike most about yourself? Forget the physical:  I mean the proper stuff – the ways you think and act and are. The words you call yourself when you do something stupid. The tapes you replay of mistakes you made – years ago, long after everyone else has forgotten. The traits you try to hide.  The quirks you feel that mark you out. I laughed too loud. I had nothing to say. I’m boring, I’m weird, I’m …Read More

Crazy Love

By June 11, 2014 Blog

What does it mean to love? I’d always pictured it as a big strawberry-scented pink bubble, that envelopes you in warm feelings and then sweeps you along. You can’t resist it; and when it happens, it makes everything simple. But when I think about the people I love and the relationships we have, they’re definitely not pink. On many occasions, loving others seems not just resistible, but impossible. There’s all kinds of feelings in there: and they’re complicated instead of simple. …Read More

The Pillow Parachute

By June 10, 2014 Blog

This is one of my favourite prayers.  It’s taped by my pillow, so it’s one of the first things I see (before the bills and the bad hair and the heart that says I’d be safer in staying in bed) .We use it at church as part of communion, and when I wake up feeling like the world is too much and I’m a mess and the world’s worst Christian to boot, it always picks me up. Jesus, we come …Read More

Right Here, Right Now

By June 9, 2014 Blog

God is using us. In this moment and in this place. It’s hard to feel it when we’re not where we want to be. But it’s true: and that truth gives us strength to do what we can, where we can. Where we’ve been put. A boring job. A relationship where every conversation is a struggle. A sick bed. This is not where I belong.  This is not the way it was meant to be. It hurts. But when you’ve prayed …Read More

Something to Celebrate

By June 8, 2014 Blog

Today is Pentecost Which means that though Jesus is seated at the right hand of His Father He is also with us. It means that : though you may have been hurt now you are comforted though you may have been rejected now you are loved though you may be weak and sinful and messed-up in Him you are strong and forgiven and utterly blameless you are helped in your weakness you are reminded you belong though you might not …Read More

Self-Help for Scruples

By June 5, 2014 Blog

Following on from Tuesday’s post, ‘When OCD Gets Religious‘, I’ve been asked to talk a bit more about my experience. It’s been a while since this has been a big issue for me. I’m not an expert and I’m afraid I don’t have any easy answers, but for what it’s worth, these are some things that have helped me in the past: 1. remember, everyone has intrusive thoughts. What’s different with us is not the thoughts – it’s that we …Read More

A Thousand Words

By June 4, 2014 Blog

A friend of mine – a Christian – is battling a serious eating disorder.  She’s in a very hard place: a place that feels hopeless and lonely and frightening.  It would be tempting for her to give up: but she’s not. I’m proud of her for fighting and I believe she’ll come through. She’s a very gifted photographer; and when I asked her what helps her keep going; she showed me these – I hope they encourage you too:   …Read More

When OCD Gets Religious

By June 3, 2014 Blog

Both before and after I became a Christian I was a worried adolescent. I was terrified that I’d done something dreadful – much worse than other people. Forgiveness and acceptance might hold for the other folks: but in my case, well…I’m wasn’t so sure.  In my head, there were all sorts of reasons why I didn’t deserve the grace given to others.  For some people, this is an ongoing and painful reality.  They’re literally obsessed with their sin –  believing that …Read More