Better Words

By July 17, 2014 Blog

Not: I hope you’re not still hurting yourself. Better: How are you feeling? How are you coping with those feelings? Not: Have you been reading your Bible? Better: Here’s some verses that have encouraged me recently. Not (just): I’m praying for you Better: Here’s what I’m praying for you Not (just): We’re here for you Better: Would you like to come over on Saturday/go for a coffee on Wednesday/watch a DVD? You can let me know on the day if …Read More

Not just girls

By July 17, 2014 Blog

Ten min video and a great reminder that EDs affect all of us.  Thanks to Lucy for the link:   For more help contact: www. mengetdstoo.co.uk Share…

If…

By July 16, 2014 Blog

If you’re struggling with depression and you have made it out of bed, You are doing great. If you have chronic fatigue or anxiety and you hold down a job, You are amazing. If you have chronic fatigue or anxiety and you can’t work, You are still amazing. Maybe this is the time for rest.  Tomorrow won’t look like today. If you are healing from sexual abuse and find relationships difficult You are normal and strong and you are learning …Read More

Vive La Difference

By July 15, 2014 Blog

God puts us into community for a reason: we can’t do life alone. As someone who likes space and silence and solitude, sometimes this feels a bit tricky. As a sinner who wants to control her world and is sure she knows best, it’s downright confronting. But I need them.  Relationships, I mean.  And – gulp – not just on my terms. Not just by appointment. Not just when it’s convenient and comfortable. Not just people like me – but …Read More

Supporting Survivors of Sex Abuse

By July 14, 2014 Blog

First, be aware of the facts: Sexual abuse takes different forms and does not necessarily involve penetration or physical harm. 30 to 40 percent of victims are abused by family members 50 percent have been abused by someone outside the family whom they know and trust. over 30 percent of survivors never disclose the abuse to anyone. Of those who do tell someone, approximately 75 percent do so accidentally. Almost 80 percent initially deny it and don’t want to share. More …Read More

When ‘Good’ is ‘Bad’

By July 13, 2014 Blog

I’ve always been one of life’s ‘good girls’. A people pleaser. A perfectionist. Not very exciting – but reliable at least. Not for me the heady temptations of boys or alcohol – I like authority and rules. Neat lines and boundaries, everything in its right place. Everyone knows someone like this. The ‘perfect’ child, the earnest student. Stalwart of the Bible study, always ready with the ‘right’ answers. A little intense. But never any trouble – and nothing to worry about …Read More

Holiday

By July 8, 2014 Blog

I’m on holiday for the next few days, (wooop!) so you’re getting a bit of a break. In the meantime, here’s some fun stuff (ED recovery from the perspective of a cat)… http://www.buzzfeed.com/kbenning/eating-disorder-treatment-as-told-by-pictures-of-c-tjdd Share…

Relationship wisdom that isn’t actually true

By July 7, 2014 Blog

1. there’s one special soulmate out there for you and when you meet them you will both just KNOW. I reckon there’s probably lots of folks out there you’re compatible with. (And by compatible I mean stuff like: not already married, loves Jesus, doesn’t repulse you, not a relative etc). You have a soulmate and it’s Jesus. I also think that most of the time, love looks nothing like what we see on TV.  It can grow out of friendship; …Read More

A Spreading Kindness

By July 6, 2014 Blog

Today I’ve been reminded of the kindness of other believers: and the wonderful provision of our God. It’s got me thinking about the millions of ways that God has loved me through other people and how thankful I am for friends and for a Lord who puts us in community. There are too many to list, but here’s some of the folks who have blessed and keep blessing me: a couple who prayed with us every week when I was …Read More

On Manning Up and Being A Girl

By July 3, 2014 Blog

Very interesting: would love to hear your thoughts on either. (Thanks to Cat and Rachel for links)   Share…