Signs it’s time to ask for help

By September 19, 2017 Blog

–       You say that you’re fine; but you know that you’re not –       You’ve said ‘I’ll get better’ but you’re just getting worse. –       Everything is terrible and it’s all your fault –       Acting recklessly or putting yourself in danger –       Forgetting to do big things that matter; like washing or eating –       Not being able to make sense of anything –       Finding basic tasks impossible –       Using drugs, alcohol or damaging …Read More

20 text messages for struggling friends

By September 12, 2017 Blog

Would it help to talk? I can’t pretend I can fix it, but I’d love to listen. Here’s what I love about you… You are not a burden. Can I pray for you; now or later, or read to you from the Bible or get some music that might be encouraging? Here’s a Bible verse that has helped me when I was feeling X..and this is why it helped me. Whatever you’re facing, God’s first and last words to you …Read More

Parenting a child with special needs: Guest post

By September 4, 2017 Blog

In today’s powerful guest post, my friend Kenny reflects on parenting a child with Down’s Syndrome.  Thanks Kenny.   He writes: It’s been reported again recently that ‘Iceland are close to becoming the first country where no-one will give birth to a child with Down’s Syndrome.’ This was explored last year in Sally Phillip’s documentary, ‘A World Without Down’s Syndrome?’ that brilliantly highlighted the various complex issues relating to pre-natal testing. I’ll not re-trace those steps here (see Glen Scrivener’s …Read More

More than words

By August 29, 2017 Blog

Last week I was asked this question (for a website on self-development), “(In 50 words) What’s the best book you’ve read on self development and how is it different from the rest?” I thought of the self development books I’d read. Books with helpful insights on mental health issues.  Books offering practical advice about relationships.  Books with tips on managing emotions or improving my health. Books by lay people and books by medics.  Books for groups and books for individuals. …Read More

Thankfulness Myths

By August 21, 2017 Blog

1. It’s a chore. No! Thankfulness isn’t  an exercise like flossing, to make you a more rounded person. It’s a whole new way of looking at the world. It’s a command and a habit and an opportunity.  It is more than writing a list before you go to bed – though this might be a help.  It’s risky and thrilling and it changes you and the people around you. 2. It’s based on the good stuff you’ve got. Thankfulness is much …Read More

10 Reasons to Hope

By August 16, 2017 Blog

When God made you, He knew exactly what He was doing. You’re here because the Lord wants you here.  You have a purpose and you matter. You don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else because He has marked out your path, and it is full of meaning. You’re going through hard times because you follow a crucified Lord. It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It doesn’t mean He’s forgotten you.  Your name is written on the palm of …Read More

Lies about Recovery

By August 8, 2017 Blog

It might be an out and out addiction.  Or a habit that’s becoming something more. Either way, it’s got you – and here’s what it whispers… 1. I can’t do it.    – Yes you can.  But see point 2… 2. I can do it alone.  – You can’t – no-one can. 3. It’s gonna be easy.  – It may well be the hardest thing you’ve ever done…but also the most worthwhile.  Long-term, the alternative is much, much harder. 4. It’s …Read More

Battle Ready

By August 2, 2017 Blog

I’m nervous. There’s a big event approaching and I don’t feel up to it.  I’ve prepped and I’ve packed.  But as the minutes tick down, I pull out the big guns. A slash of lipstick. A mask of foundation. Concealer to hide my weakness. A cloak of expensive perfume. Painted talons and whitened fangs. Warpaint. And Now I’m ready. What’s your armour? What helps you, when you know you’re not enough? Perhaps it’s food. A wall between you and your …Read More

Living For The Weekend

By July 25, 2017 Blog

I’ve been talking with friends about the shape of “victory”.  And by victory, I mean moving forwards through different struggles … self-harm difficulties with singleness difficulties with marriage anger and shame eating disorders pornography anxiety …to name but a few. One issue that came up was, “When do you give up?  Is there a point where you say, “this is always going to be my issue and it’ll never go away so I may as well learn to live with …Read More

Living by Doubt

By July 20, 2017 Blog

Don’t listen to yourself. You are not the best judge of how you’re doing.  In fact, it’s most likely that you are the worst. I think, ‘I’m doing fine,” when I’m not.  I believe that I’m “hopeless and rubbish,” when I’m loved and chosen by God and filled by his Holy Spirit. I assume that, “I’ll never succeed so I’d better give up…” when true glory isn’t winning, but stepping out and stumbling on. There are a thousand reasons I …Read More