Ever so humble?

By May 17, 2017 Blog

James 4 says, ‘Humble yourself before the Lord.’ But what does this look like? Here’s one option.  If pride is “bigging myself up”, then  humility must be about putting myself down. In other words; self-hatred, pretending to be godly. (I hate myself but sell it as meekness). self-deprecation, ‘oh no, it was nothing,’ (just ALL MY HARD WORK). martyrdom, (glaring over the dishes whilst others relax and saying, ‘no, I’m Fine.  You just kick back and I’ll keep washing’). putting myself down to critical friends and …Read More

Mental health and social media

By May 10, 2017 Blog

Sometimes I’m asked about social media – is it good or bad?  Does it cause issues like eating disorders and self-harm, or is it a lifeline for the lonely? That’s a bit like asking, “is a knife a good thing?” Sure. It can cut me a slice of cake, which is good. But – it can also stab me through the heart – not so good. So let’s look at ten double-edged blessings of the online world…   1. It amplifies my voice when …Read More

Talking back to Anxiety

By May 3, 2017 Blog

I don’t know what the future holds. Sometimes I think of what might happen and I panic. How will I cope?  Who will care for those I love? But my heart steadies as I remember these words: “The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?  The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” Psalm 27:1 If I can only get through this.  If I just take charge of this. If I can change this. If I get this. On and …Read More

The Problem with ‘Authentic’

By April 30, 2017 Blog

I’ve got a problem with authenticity. I know – that sounds bad. Like saying I hate kittens. Or sunshine. Or happiness. Because authenticity is such a lovely, fluffy, catch-all term. Everyone wants it and everyone loves it. What’s not to like?   Here are some memes on authenticity: ‘By choosing to be our most authentic self, we leave a trail of magic wherever we go’  ‘There is nothing more beautiful than your authentic self’ ‘People who are true to their authentic …Read More

Interview with TWR

By April 26, 2017 Blog

I did an interview with TWR which aired on Sunday. If you fancy a listen, click below: Image source Share…

Helping those who grieve

By April 18, 2017 Blog

let them choose how they want to express it. If they want to talk and talk and talk; fine. If they don’t want to; or need to try and move on, then that’s fine too. They have no control over losing their loved one; so let them handle this the way they need. don’t pretend it hasn’t happened. You don’t have to have perfect words; or even good ones. But acknowledge their loss and their pain. Speak to them if …Read More

Glemma Podcast

By April 11, 2017 Blog

Glen and I waffling about my new book, (part of a series called The Evangelist’s Podcast, where he interviews folks about their faith). Plus bonus material on the antibacterial merits of garlic.   Share…

Shame-less

By April 6, 2017 Blog

A few days ago, I was taking Ruby for a walk. It was mid-afternoon and she was building a tower of pebbles on the beach. My phone (which had been off all day), buzzed with an urgent question from my publisher. So I tapped out a two sentence reply. In the time it took me to type, Ruby ran behind me and tripped over the pebbles. It was my fault.  I’d taken my eyes off her and she could have been hurt. …Read More

New Book!

By March 29, 2017 Blog

When I first became a Christian, I expected that all of my issues would be straightened out and I’d be sorted. But they weren’t – and I’m not. Which made me ask, am I really a Christian? And if so, why am I still so messed up? That’s the theme of my second book, coming out in April.  It’s called ‘A New Day,’ and it’s for messy Christians.  People (like me), who struggle with hunger anxiety control shame anger and despair. As with A …Read More

Walking with the worried

By March 21, 2017 Blog

Over the years I’ve struggled with anxiety. At its worst, it’s paralysing, leaving me unable to think or move or breathe. Simple tasks feel fraught with danger and overwhelming significance.  Little tasks, like chores feel overwhelming. Ask me what’s wrong and I can’t explain. There’s a list of trivialities, but nothing to explain the sense that everything is breaking. So how can I help myself? And how can I (and others like me), be helped? Take me seriously: but not my fears. Anxiety is like a whirlpool …Read More