Your Appreciation Is Not Appreciated

By September 1, 2014 Blog
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A few years ago, I was given a book, ‘How to Give and Receive Encouragement’, (Yes, I needed it).  To begin with, it seemed like a foreign language. After all, I grew up thinking that “getting a big head” was pretty much the worst that could happen. Therefore the aim of social interaction was to keep both myself and others squashed - humble.  This applied especially to the people I loved most. After all, if being proud is the greatest sin, then the greatest kindness is to take ‘em …Read More

Know Hope

By August 31, 2014 Blog
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There are days when it feels like you’re a hoover: sucking things out, when others put back. You take up too much space, where others are welcome. Your work has no purpose; or the absence of a job title makes you less than everyone else. There are days when it feels like everything you say marks you out. You speak when you should be silent.  You have scars where others are smooth.  You tremble at the things others take for granted. There are days …Read More

Spot the Difference

By August 28, 2014 Blog
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Watch a perfume ad. Or read a magazine. How do you know when you’re in love? You can’t bear to be without them.  They complete you.  They get you – when no-one else does.  Your passions are their passions. When you’re together, nothing else matters.  You can’t eat or sleep or think of anyone else.   They’re like no-one else you’ve ever met. You can’t believe how much they know about you and how much they think of you. Now. …Read More

‘No Need To Worry’

By August 27, 2014 Blog
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Letter from a friend: Hi Emma.   Sorry I haven’t replied for a while.  In answer to your question; My eating disorder makes me feel strong. I know this isn’t true but I feel like it is.  I know you’re right. I know this takes everything away from me. I know I have to eat and not lose more weight, but it’s much more easy to listen to the lies. I want to trust God but I’m frightened. And when …Read More

A Friend In Need

By August 26, 2014 Blog
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One of the blessings of friendship is that we can carry one another; and this is a gift, rather than a burden.  But there’s a difference between being a friend and being a carer. At times we will need to receive more than we give.  That’s a part of life and we’ve all been there. But what if neediness is a position we never leave? Or if we find our identity in helping, but refuse to receive help? In these cases we may need to think …Read More

Silence Versus Solutions

By August 25, 2014 Blog
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When bad things happen to those you care for, it’s hard to know what to say. You desperately want to show them you love them and you desperately want to fix it. But you can’t – and you don’t know how. In your head, you run through the options: ‘I know how you feel’. Except, wait. You don’t. You haven’t lost your mother. You’ve not received a terrifying diagnosis. You don’t know what it’s like to fight to addiction. You …Read More

Lifted not Laden

By August 24, 2014 Blog
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I remember chatting to an old neighbour about her bible reading. Every day; rain, hail or shine, she’d read a portion of scripture. Inspired, I asked what kept her going – and what she’d been learning. She sighed deeply. ‘Well’ she said, ‘It’s just what we do, isn’t it? Christians read the Bible. We stick to the reading plans. We stay the course – even when it’s dull’. Having recently staggered through 2 Chronicles, this was not enough. Why not …Read More

In Defense of Dawkins

By August 21, 2014 Blog
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Last night we felt our baby kick. Except that, of course, it’s not a baby. It’s a fetus. A potential  life – which is apparently very different.  For one thing, he (or she) must earn the right to exist.  If that child is flawed  or substandard; if the foot that nudged my husband’s hand is say, deformed  or misshapen, well obviously we have the right to withdraw all protection and care. In fact, it’s our moral duty to do so. Yesterday, a woman tweeted Richard Dawkins with these words, …Read More

Beyond Full

By August 20, 2014 Blog
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Compulsive overeating is where someone feels compelled to eat when they are not hungry and cannot stop when they have had enough. It affects more people than both anorexia and bulimia and usually begins in late adolescence or early adulthood. According to the sources below… Most, but not all, begin to eat compulsively after a period of dieting Most put others first and attend to the needs of other people and not themselves Most, but not all, have some difficulty knowing or expressing their …Read More

One True Voice?

By August 19, 2014 Blog
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Yesterday I talked a little about the importance of sexuality and the difference between the gospel’s understanding of life and the world’s. I’ve had a few questions and emails asking if this has been prompted by the debate surrounding Vicky Beeching: a Christian who has recently come out as gay and has been speaking about her experiences. I’ve followed the media coverage with interest and I think it’s great that she and others are talking about these issues. But I haven’t …Read More