Hold On

By November 24, 2014 Blog
perseverance

There are lots of things we might be tempted to give up on: looking for a job a (really boring but worthwhile) book reconciliation with someone who’s hurt us or whom we’ve hurt a work project – like setting up a business a personal project – getting fit or building a shed a family relationship a marriage ourselves It’s hard to hope when that hope is repeatedly dashed.  It’s hard to try when you’re scared of failure.  It’s hard to reach out for fear …Read More

Hard World, Kind God

By November 23, 2014 Blog
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Most of the time, I live life like I’m dreaming. Maybe you’re the same. It takes no effort – the minutes propel us forwards, into routines of socks and schedules and sandwiches.  Days, weeks, months…years like waves, lulling us to sleep. Life – unchanging, except for a peppering of balloons and wreaths; anniversaries, birthdays and deaths. But sometimes, something happens to shake us awake. An event.  Perhaps a tragedy. And once we’ve been woken, we can’t go back to sleep.  The world looks …Read More

We Are Family

By November 20, 2014 Blog
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Churches are full of humans.  Humans who mean well, but also make mistakes. This means they’re places of blessing; but sometimes also of hurt. If you’ve tried church in the past and had bad experiences there, I’m sorry.  But please – don’t give up on the family that God puts you in. If you don’t go to church, then now’s a great time to visit – or revisit – somewhere new. If you do go, and see someone you don’t recognise, …Read More

Where to Take Your Hurt

By November 19, 2014 Blog
shell

I’ve never been a victim of physical abuse.  Verbal – a little – but not on the scale experienced by many others.  I thank God for this. Especially as I’ve recently had the tiniest taste of what it might be like. A few weeks ago I was sitting in a cafe, tapping on my computer.  An elderly man asked if he could sit opposite and, smiling, I said, yes of course. My phone rang and I picked it up.  Mum, …Read More

Blessed are the Flexible

By November 18, 2014 Blog
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How do you feel about change? I’m not a fan.  In fact, I hate it. I hate change. But it loves me. I can’t avoid it.  Though believe me, I’ve tried. I tried it with anorexia – trying to stop time.  I tried it with OCD – trying to control my environment. I tried it with academia – sentences like fences, walling me in.  Safety in books. But loneliness too. So I tried it with relationships – the loved ones who swore they’d …Read More

Stop Press

By November 17, 2014 Blog
Celebrity-Culture

Some of today’s actual news headlines:   ‘Record heat sparks health fears for celebrities in (-er) the jungle.’ ‘Lorraine Kelly dazzles in embellished gown with plunging neckline’ ‘Newlyweds Jeff Goldblum and Emilie Livingstone head out for some groceries in LA’ ‘Are the Clooneys set to become parents?’ – (See also ‘Are the Clooneys Going to Button Moon?’ and ‘Are the Clooneys going to Eat Monkeys?) ‘Lovebirds Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux wear Matching Black as they leave hotel’ ‘Strictly No Wheat …Read More

Make Do – or Mend?

By November 16, 2014 Blog
plaster

You don’t need to be Irish to believe in confession. But you do, if you’re Christian. I don’t mean incense and chanting. Just this – talking to God (and others).  Saying, “I did something wrong and I’m sorry.” I say ‘just.’  But it’s a choking word, ‘sorry.’  Spiky and tickly.  Burns in the stomach. Sticks in the throat. But nonetheless, essential. When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength …Read More

Armchair Critics

By November 14, 2014 Blog
sesame street

If you don’t like carols, are you even a Christian? I ask because I’m sitting in Starbucks, where they’ve been pumping out festive tunes since October. And quite frankly,  I’m ready for the hills. This means that the news of Band Aid 30 re-releasing ‘Do they Know It’s Christmas?’ doesn’t fill me with great joy. They’re doing it to raise funds for Ebola victims and that’s important. But seriously…Messianic pop-stars crooning about the West rescuing Africa- is that the best we can do? I’m ready to rant.  But thinking it …Read More

Take Me To Church

By November 13, 2014 Blog
Go-To-Church

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MYSVMgRr6pw With apologies to: Hozier and Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC: My God’s got a sense of humour He’s Lord of the wedding and Lord of the funeral Courts no man’s approval I should’ve worshipped Him sooner Listened when the Heavens spoke Said Jesus is the Father’s true mouthpiece Every Sunday’s a reminder Fresh grace for each week ‘We were born sick,’ my heart screams it My church offers hope and healing Tells me ‘I’m more than what I do in the …Read More

Responding to Relapse

By November 12, 2014 Blog
relapse pit

1. Don’t panic.  Relapse is not the same as tumbling back into that pit. This moment – right now - is where you stop sliding and start climbing. 2. Don’t pretend it’s okay.  It’s not. We both know where these patterns lead. We both know that it’s bigger than you.  And we both know there’s a window when you can seek help and make decisions; a window that may close if you leave it much longer. 3. It will never be easier to …Read More