Don’t Settle

By July 25, 2016 Blog
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I don’t need to settle for a life half-lived. I’m not the lies I’ve always believed I’m not the patterns that I once learned I’m not the person that I’ve always been. I’m frightened; but I am not my fears. I am not in control; but that is good. I will not be bound by the chains that Christ has broken I will not despise what He calls precious I don’t believe in shame or self-hatred or self-improvements I believe in Jesus …Read More

In It Together

By July 21, 2016 Blog
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Sometimes I look at other Christians and think, “you guys have got it together; but I’m a mess. Your problems are fix-able; mine are too much!” This is not the truth and it’s not the shape of gospel community.  In real community, we carry one another and we share our mutual struggles.   You’re not the fixer and I’m not a project. You’re not “fine” and I’m not “a mess.” We have different struggles and at different points we might need extra …Read More

As You Are

By July 13, 2016 Blog
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Comparisons are an unavoidable part of life. They start from the moment you’re born. “Who does she take after?” “Ooh, she’s got her dad’s nose/mum’s temper.” And on it goes… “How old is she?  Is she walking yet?  At her age, our Jimmy could somersault.” You try to resist them. You brush them off. “Ah, she’ll do it in her own time.” But like dust, they settle.  The doubts and the shoulds… “She should be crawling.” “She should be talking.” “We should be worried…” But what’s the …Read More

Split Vote

By July 4, 2016 Blog
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We voted, Glen and I. We talked about it and we prayed about it. We both did our research and we both sought advice from wise Christian friends. Both of us could justify our decisions and both felt that we knew the right thing to do. But I voted to remain and Glen voted to leave. And we are still together.   I don’t think he’s pro-racist, he doesn’t think I’m anti-democratic. He’s not crowing in victory and I’m not …Read More

Car Crash

By June 28, 2016 Blog
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“How old are you? How much do you weigh? What did you eat that day? Well what did you have for dinner? Who made dinner? Did you drink with dinner? No, not even water? When did you drink? How much did you drink? What container did you drink out of? Who gave you the drink? How much do you usually drink? Who dropped you off at this party? At what time? But where exactly? What were you wearing? Why were …Read More

Breaking Bad (Repost)

By June 20, 2016 Blog
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Sorry for my lack of posts: I’m trying to meet some Nasty Deadlines, but will be blogging afresh soon. In the meantime, here’s one from the archives: …. It’s okay not to be okay. It doesn’t feel like it, but that’s the truth. It’s part of being human. Which, unless I’m missing something, means that CHRISTIANS STRUGGLE TOO. Believers have problems. Not just ‘Christian’ ones: Skipping the odd quiet time. Forgetting to pray for a missionary. Young Jenny being passed over for …Read More

True Radicalism

By June 13, 2016 Blog
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Powerful new video from Glen:   Share…

Heads, She Wins?

By June 8, 2016 Blog
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I’ve been humming and ha-ing about this post. That’s because it talks a bit about SUBMISSION, which is a very dangerous word. It’s dangerous, because it means different things to different people. And because it carries a lot of weight. Some of the weight comes from the Bible. But some of it comes from prejudice and judgements. And it’s hard to sort between the two. Seven sentences in and I’ve already said “submission, prejudice and judgements”. This is not a great beginning; and it doesn’t get …Read More

Dying for help

By May 30, 2016 Blog
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If you’re struggling with an eating disorder and you go to your GP, you’re doing something enormously brave. You’re making yourself vulnerable. You’re sticking two fingers up to an addiction that can kill. You’re saying no to a host of voices that tell you, “you’re not sick enough, you don’t deserve any help.” The last thing you need to hear from your GP are the same words. “I’m sorry, but you’re not ill enough to qualify for treatment.” Sadly, this is …Read More

Helpless Helpers

By May 23, 2016 Blog
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When I give my testimony, I sometimes talk to people afterwards.  The number one question I’m asked is this: How do I help my loved one give up an addiction? Every fibre of me wants to say, “here; here’s the answer.  Here’s what helps me; here’s what will help you.” But I can’t.  Because I don’t have one. For one thing, I’m far from the finished product.  I speak out of weakness, not as someone with answers, but someone who’s taking her questions …Read More