No Place Like (Church) Home

By October 23, 2016 Blog

I love my church family.  I’m typing this now, because they are babysitting my daughter.  When she comes home, she’ll be grinning from ear to ear; and knowing she is safe and happy – I am too. I love my study group.  We’re completely different women from all walks of life – but we share our questions, our struggles and our hearts.  We’re real about our struggles and yet, they inspire me to live for Jesus; more than any perfect motivational speaker or book. I love …Read More

Ten Ways I’m Like Donald Trump

By October 17, 2016 Blog

I dislike everything he stands for and I’d happily campaign against him. But instead of just condemning his policies or his words; I find myself condemning him. And enjoying it. He makes me feel shocked. But I like being shocked. I want to see more. I want to reinforce how much better I am than he is.  How much more educated.  Smarter.  Kinder. Better. I’m better than he is, I think.  I would never speak his words; or do what he does. And …Read More

(No) Excuses for Relapse

By October 10, 2016 Blog

1. I’ve been working really hard and I deserve a break.  (Sorry, but no. Good on you for working hard; but the thing you want a break from is a life-dominating whirlpool of addiction that will suck you down if you dip your toe in). 2. I can handle it. (You can’t.  It’s bigger than you – which is why you need Jesus and other people and all the support you can get). 3. I’ve learned from my mistakes.  (Great! So don’t …Read More

Porn: What lies beneath

By October 3, 2016 Blog

Guest post by Glen (based on this earlier article) How does porn impact a young girl who discovers her father’s stash?  Michelle VanLoon writes about it in My Father The Porn Addict.  This sentence struck me more than any other: Porn taught me that the single most important thing to grown-ups was this mysterious world of fantasy, pain, and animalistic impulses too powerful to ignore. Porn peddles a lie that becomes “the single most important thing” for those who buy into …Read More

Christianity is for the Mentally Ill

By September 26, 2016 Blog
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Can I be a Christian and have mental health issues? YES. Jesus comes for everyone. But more than this, Jesus can be especially attractive to those of us who struggle in this way. Here’s why.. 1.     Jesus comes for the sick.  Time and time again, He reaches out to all those who know themselves to be weak…weak in body, weak in spirit, weak in mind.  He goes to those who cut themselves off from others and harm themselves; whether promiscuity (the woman at …Read More

12 Ways Christianity is Different to Spirituality

By September 22, 2016 Blog
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Sometimes when I talk to others about Christianity, they say, “don’t worry, I’m very spiritual.” This can mean lots of different things.  It might mean that they have an appreciation for the immensity and beauty of the universe.  It might mean that they have a strong sense of morality or social justice.  It might mean they believe in angels. It might mean that they don’t want to offend me, (or want me to shut up about Jesus). It might mean that they have …Read More

Motherhood Myths

By September 16, 2016 Blog

After a whole twenty months of being a parent,  I’m the very opposite of an expert. But here are some of the things I’m learning, (many from other, wiser teachers)… 1   Parenthood does not complete you.  It is a precious, precious gift; but it doesn’t make you less or more of a woman or man, or more or less valuable.  This is easy to say when you’ve got a child, (just like it’s easy to say that “singleness is good” from the …Read More

Marriage and Mental Health

By September 5, 2016 Blog
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What do you do when you’re married to someone with mental health problems? Chronic depression. Crippling anxiety. OCD. Eating disorders. Dementia. Addiction. You’re knackered. You feel like you’re on your own. You’ve lost sight of who they are – and who you are too. You married a partner, a companion and a helper – but now, you’re a carer. You said you’d raise a family; but you’re parenting alone. Even your friends have stopped calling. You’ve tried explaining. And apologising. …Read More

Write Your Own Obituary

By August 22, 2016 Blog

She excelled in everything she did. She was charismatic and attractive. She knew what she wanted – and she got it.   Nope.  Barbara Cartland heroine.  The sort of woman I’d cross the world to avoid. Try again:   She kept a lovely home.  She had excellent taste in furnishings. She knew exactly what colours suited her best. She recycled and occasionally gave blood. She worked hard and had moderate success in her chosen field. She rarely had a bad hair day. …Read More

The Loudest Voice

By August 14, 2016 Blog

I am SICK of the voices. “Not good enough.” “Should do better.” “Must try harder.” “Fed-up.  Useless.  Hopeless.”  “Shameful.” If anyone else spoke to me like this, I’d cut them off. “You’re not my friend,” I’d tell them. “Get out of my life.” If someone spoke them to my daughter, I wouldn’t bother with words.  I’d punch them.  I’d push them over and pull them very close.  I’d whisper, “if you feed her these lies – the lies you told me, the lies I tell myself …Read More