But I can’t DO it!

By June 23, 2017 Blog

“Do not worry”, says Jesus in the sermon on the mount (verse reference, Matthew 6:25-34). So we worry, (or at least, I do). We worry to start with, because that’s who we are. And then we read this verse … and worry MORE, because we’re disobeying God. Telling us not to do something only shows us how impossible it is to obey.  Like telling ourselves to “be purple”. No amount of willpower makes it better. So what do we do, when we can’t …Read More

Some thoughts on yesterday’s post…

By June 14, 2017 Blog

Yesterday’s post was entitled Grace versus Justice – but a lovely blog reader has (rightly) pulled me up on it; because they are not opposed. So along with the original post, I’ve added her comments, and tried to clarify with some of my own. Here’s what I’d originally written: … Justice arrives 45 minutes early, wearing a scowl.  Then she outstays her welcome by several years. Grace whisks you away for a weekend break. She’s arranged your babysitters and insists on paying. Justice hollers from the sidelines, …Read More

Grace versus Justice

By June 13, 2017 Blog

Grace and justice. Who’s more fun at a party? Grace every time, right? But who do we invite over when it’s our turn to host? Justice. Justice arrives 45 minutes early, wearing a scowl.  Then she outstays her welcome by several years. Grace whisks you away for a weekend break. She’s arranged your babysitters and insists on paying. Justice hollers from the sidelines, “Harder, faster, stronger, not like that!” then pulls you from the team with a sigh of exasperation. Grace doesn’t seem to have noticed your match-losing incompetence. She’s …Read More

13 Reasons Why Not

By June 5, 2017 Blog

We’ve just finished watching the series ’13 Reasons Why.’ It’s about a teenage girl, Hannah, who kills herself; and the 13 people she blames for her decision. My feelings on it are mixed. It graphically depicts issues such as self-harm, rape, addiction and suicide; all of which need to be discussed. It also teaches us how to spot warning signs in vulnerable teenagers and to ask, ‘what would I do? How could I have helped?’ These are vital questions; but there …Read More

Why it’s gonna be okay

By May 29, 2017 Blog

You can’t fix the past – and you don’t need to. Redemption means that everything, even your worst, your most shameful moments, are covered. They are being woven into something beautiful. You can’t live in the future – and you wouldn’t want to. Even the future you desperately want – the one you dare not name because it’s too painful to open your heart to hope; even that would be no good for you right now. The future needs to …Read More

Because we can’t feed ourselves

By May 24, 2017 Blog

Guest post from Glen.. A minister friend of mine told me yesterday of the home communions he’d been doing. The people he visited were so incapacitated, not only could they not come to church, they could not feed themselves. So my friend fed them, saying, The body of our Lord Jesus Christ which was given for you preserve your body and soul to everlasting life. Take and eat this in remembrance that Christ died for you and feed on him in your …Read More

Ever so humble?

By May 17, 2017 Blog

James 4 says, ‘Humble yourself before the Lord.’ But what does this look like? Here’s one option.  If pride is “bigging myself up”, then  humility must be about putting myself down. In other words; self-hatred, pretending to be godly. (I hate myself but sell it as meekness). self-deprecation, ‘oh no, it was nothing,’ (just ALL MY HARD WORK). martyrdom, (glaring over the dishes whilst others relax and saying, ‘no, I’m Fine.  You just kick back and I’ll keep washing’). putting myself down to critical friends and …Read More

Mental health and social media

By May 10, 2017 Blog

Sometimes I’m asked about social media – is it good or bad?  Does it cause issues like eating disorders and self-harm, or is it a lifeline for the lonely? That’s a bit like asking, “is a knife a good thing?” Sure. It can cut me a slice of cake, which is good. But – it can also stab me through the heart – not so good. So let’s look at ten double-edged blessings of the online world…   1. It amplifies my voice when …Read More

Talking back to Anxiety

By May 3, 2017 Blog

I don’t know what the future holds. Sometimes I think of what might happen and I panic. How will I cope?  Who will care for those I love? But my heart steadies as I remember these words: “The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?  The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” Psalm 27:1 If I can only get through this.  If I just take charge of this. If I can change this. If I get this. On and …Read More

The Problem with ‘Authentic’

By April 30, 2017 Blog

I’ve got a problem with authenticity. I know – that sounds bad. Like saying I hate kittens. Or sunshine. Or happiness. Because authenticity is such a lovely, fluffy, catch-all term. Everyone wants it and everyone loves it. What’s not to like?   Here are some memes on authenticity: ‘By choosing to be our most authentic self, we leave a trail of magic wherever we go’  ‘There is nothing more beautiful than your authentic self’ ‘People who are true to their authentic …Read More