Go Figure

By June 30, 2015 Blog
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In the last ten years, the number of under-19s receiving treatment for an eating disorder has risen by 172%. That’s quite a stat. It should be surprising, except, well, it’s not. Everyone knows someone who’s been affected. Schools and colleges expect it. Many industries endorse it. A generation of young people (predominantly girls) are starving themselves to death and it’s part of the furniture. Eating disorders are not the only issue. But they’re the default for far too many. Why? Here are some guesses: …Read More

For the Weary

By June 24, 2015 Blog
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There’s a certain kind of tiredness that no amount of sleep can touch. Where does it come from, this weariness   it’s the news – a steady stream of sadness that drips drips drips till you’re leaking soundbites and you can’t tell what matters and what’s just noise it’s polite chit-chat and stabs behind the cup-cakes it’s the magazine articles that tell you to be yourself and what that self should be it’s the queue at the post office and the …Read More

I gave my life to Jesus [by Glen]

By June 23, 2015 Blog
I gave my life to Jesus

I gave my life to Jesus about a thousand times? Anyone else? It began aged 13 at a Christian camp. The youth leader made the challenge and I… I was equal to it. I surrendered all. Later that evening I looked hard in the mirror to see if there was any change. Was there a light behind my eyes? A halo above my head? A funny feeling in my stomach? Was there anything to tell me my prayer worked! Nothing. So I prayed again …Read More

The Problem with Positive Thinking

By June 17, 2015 Blog
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I’m not sold on the power of positive thinking. In fact, when taken to extremes, I reckon it’s positively dangerous. When someone is sick and doesn’t get better, the last thing they need is someone telling them to fight harder. Those who recover from, say, cancer and those who don’t, are not separated by whether or not they really ‘battled this thing’. Everyone ‘fights’ – but there are some things that a positive mental attitude cannot defeat. And if you tell someone struggling with …Read More

Not Good Enough: Hurrah!

By June 8, 2015 Blog
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Thank God for friends. Chatting today, we shared our mutual shortcomings in the sphere of work/wifeliness/parenting/breathing.  Finally, we came to the conclusion that ‘good enough is – well, good enough.‘ You don’t have to be a wonder worker to justify your existence. You don’t need a spotless home to be worthwhile. The odd turkey twizzler will not kill your toddler. Give your best and that’s all anyone can ask. You’re good enough, just as you are. Sounds lovely, doesn’t it?  Liberating. Much better …Read More

Truth for Testing Times

By June 2, 2015 Blog
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everyone thinks everyone else knows what they’re doing: they don’t. whatever it is - recovery, grief, housework, rebuilding relationships - you don’t have to do it all in one go. it’s possible you will feel completely different in a very short time. good or bad – you’re not who your parents or the bullies or your exam papers or your ex says. the bad thing you’re terrified of happening probably won’t happen.  Even if it does, you will be okay. you are not …Read More

Plans: Guest Post

By May 27, 2015 Blog
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Thanks so much to Lucy, for sharing her experiences in this guest post.. “I’ve always been a coper. Independent, in control. Having grown up in a Christian home, I can’t really remember a time when I wasn’t a Christian, but I always thought I was the one in the driving seat, with God just calling out directions every now and then, which I could choose to follow – or ignore. That all changed when I fell apart. It began about …Read More

Twelve Years a (Love) Slave

By May 23, 2015 Blog
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Twelve years ago tomorrow, Glen and I tied the knot. It was a glorious day, filled with laughter and love. The honeymoon was just as I’d dreamed – and after our return, it only got better. The longer we spent in each other’s company, the more we fell in love. It was so effortless; like two pieces slotting into a whole. In Glen’s arms, I found myself and finally blossomed into the woman I’d always longed to be. Living together was a total joy and felt like second …Read More

Unconditional

By May 18, 2015 Blog
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I’ve been talking to some friends about love. One who’s been single for many years, is now in a relationship. The other, who’s been childless for many years, has just had a wee boy. Both are rejoicing.  But both say this: ‘It’s wonderful – but it doesn’t fix you.’   The longed-for family.  The partner you’ve always dreamed of. When it comes to love, this is the best that the world can offer. And it’s wonderful – but it doesn’t …Read More

Crash Landing: Guest Post

By May 11, 2015 Blog
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An enormous thank-you to Catherine, for this brilliant guest post: “I don’t know if you can imagine losing your mind. My guess is that if you have never struggled with mental illness, you can’t. Speaking out of personal experience, my brain was probably the part of me I trusted the most, and took completely for granted….until it broke. And when mine broke, it was horrific. It felt horrific. “Legs break,” people will say earnestly, trying to explain and to comfort: …Read More