12 Ways Christianity is Different to Spirituality

By September 22, 2016 Blog
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Sometimes when I talk to others about Christianity, they say, “don’t worry, I’m very spiritual.” This can mean lots of different things.  It might mean that they have an appreciation for the immensity and beauty of the universe.  It might mean that they have a strong sense of morality or social justice.  It might mean they believe in angels. It might mean that they don’t want to offend me, (or want me to shut up about Jesus). It might mean that they have …Read More

Motherhood Myths

By September 16, 2016 Blog
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After a whole twenty months of being a parent,  I’m the very opposite of an expert. But here are some of the things I’m learning, (many from other, wiser teachers)… 1   Parenthood does not complete you.  It is a precious, precious gift; but it doesn’t make you less or more of a woman or man, or more or less valuable.  This is easy to say when you’ve got a child, (just like it’s easy to say that “singleness is good” from the …Read More

Marriage and Mental Health

By September 5, 2016 Blog
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What do you do when you’re married to someone with mental health problems? Chronic depression. Crippling anxiety. OCD. Eating disorders. Dementia. Addiction. You’re knackered. You feel like you’re on your own. You’ve lost sight of who they are – and who you are too. You married a partner, a companion and a helper – but now, you’re a carer. You said you’d raise a family; but you’re parenting alone. Even your friends have stopped calling. You’ve tried explaining. And apologising. …Read More

Write Your Own Obituary

By August 22, 2016 Blog
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She excelled in everything she did. She was charismatic and attractive. She knew what she wanted – and she got it.   Nope.  Barbara Cartland heroine.  The sort of woman I’d cross the world to avoid. Try again:   She kept a lovely home.  She had excellent taste in furnishings. She knew exactly what colours suited her best. She recycled and occasionally gave blood. She worked hard and had moderate success in her chosen field. She rarely had a bad hair day. …Read More

The Loudest Voice

By August 14, 2016 Blog
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I am SICK of the voices. “Not good enough.” “Should do better.” “Must try harder.” “Fed-up.  Useless.  Hopeless.”  “Shameful.” If anyone else spoke to me like this, I’d cut them off. “You’re not my friend,” I’d tell them. “Get out of my life.” If someone spoke them to my daughter, I wouldn’t bother with words.  I’d punch them.  I’d push them over and pull them very close.  I’d whisper, “if you feed her these lies – the lies you told me, the lies I tell myself …Read More

My Wheelchair is a Tool, Not a Box

By August 10, 2016 Blog
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This week we have a guest post from the “marvellous” Elizabeth B :-)… … The church service has come to an end and I’m wending my way towards the exit, mingling as I go. She’s coming over in my direction and her smile, full of kindly intent, triggers a sense of impending danger in me. It’s going to be one of those conversations. “Hello” “Hello” “Do you get help?” I instantly recognise that this, apparently random, question is prompted by …Read More

Sunday slot

By August 3, 2016 Blog
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Sorry there’s no blog this week – we’re in Keswick, enjoying the lovely lakes!  As part of the week I gave a 4 minute testimony, and it’s airing along with a fab sermon (and some rousing hymns) on Radio 4, this Sunday. If you fancy listening, (and even better, praying since it’ll go out to many people), then go here. Thank-you!   Share…

Don’t Settle

By July 25, 2016 Blog
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I don’t need to settle for a life half-lived. I’m not the lies I’ve always believed I’m not the patterns that I once learned I’m not the person that I’ve always been. I’m frightened; but I am not my fears. I am not in control; but that is good. I will not be bound by the chains that Christ has broken I will not despise what He calls precious I don’t believe in shame or self-hatred or self-improvements I believe in Jesus …Read More

In It Together

By July 21, 2016 Blog
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Sometimes I look at other Christians and think, “you guys have got it together; but I’m a mess. Your problems are fix-able; mine are too much!” This is not the truth and it’s not the shape of gospel community.  In real community, we carry one another and we share our mutual struggles.   You’re not the fixer and I’m not a project. You’re not “fine” and I’m not “a mess.” We have different struggles and at different points we might need extra …Read More

As You Are

By July 13, 2016 Blog
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Comparisons are an unavoidable part of life. They start from the moment you’re born. “Who does she take after?” “Ooh, she’s got her dad’s nose/mum’s temper.” And on it goes… “How old is she?  Is she walking yet?  At her age, our Jimmy could somersault.” You try to resist them. You brush them off. “Ah, she’ll do it in her own time.” But like dust, they settle.  The doubts and the shoulds… “She should be crawling.” “She should be talking.” “We should be worried…” But what’s the …Read More