Worth It

By January 26, 2015 Blog

“Horrific.” “Excruciating.” “Unbelievable.” “Horrendous.” “Total exhaustion.” “I didn’t think I could go on.” “Why did no-one tell me?”   These were the descriptions of child-birth at our ante-natal class reunion last Saturday. The scars, of all kinds, were still very fresh and one horror story  quickly snowballed into the next. Our teacher said, “I didn’t tell you about the more gory details, because sometimes you can know too much. And for lots of people it’s a really beautiful experience.” There was murder in her …Read More

Bleeding Love

By January 20, 2015 Blog
baby feet

The last few weeks have been a whirlwind, a learning curve, a journey and a million other cliches that try – and fail to capture the reality. Nappies, stitches and sleepless nights, I was prepared for.  What I hadn’t anticipated was the heart surgery. The fierce and painful emotion that courses, hot, through every vein. Love, I suppose.  But not like I love my cats or I love books or I love mashed potatoes. Something else – primitive and frightening.  I’d die …Read More

Happy New Year!

By December 31, 2014 Blog

Hello folks, Thanks so much for reading this year – and for your prayers, wisdom and support.  They’ve been a lifeline: and it’s a privilege to be part of such a loving and diverse community. So, as the new year rolls around, whatever 2015 holds, we’re in it together…and thank God, we have a beautiful Saviour who goes ahead of us, carries us and lights the way. I’m heading off now for some holiday/maternity leave – so there’ll be no …Read More

New Year, New You?

By December 29, 2014 Blog
head in sand

Made any NY resolutions?  Here’s some reasons I’m not a huge fan: 1. It’s January.  The worst possible month to set yourself new challenges.  Focus instead on breathing, staying warm and digestion.  If you really must, then December 28 is an excellent day for Life Change - and – goodness me, it’s a whole year away. 2. You don’t need a guilt-inducing list or a chorus of Auld Lang Sang to make change possible.  You’ve got the Holy Spirit, which means that every day a new …Read More

What Gives Me The Fear

By December 28, 2014 Blog

1. giving birth and having responsibility for/screwing up another human being. 2. depression. 3. letting people down. 4. exposure. 5. January. 6. unconsciously committing The Unforgivable Sin. (This one, not so much since chatting it through with Glen and others.  But still…) 7. eating disorders. 8. seeing people I love hurting and not being able to make it better. 9. having too much or having too little. 10. wasps. 11. being laughed at. 12. being taken seriously. 13. clowns. 14. expectations (other people’s and …Read More

I Thought It Was Just Me

By December 27, 2014 Blog

Thank God for friends who are honest. It’s like gulping down fresh air when you’ve been stuck in a lift. A big jug of iced water when you’re melting in the heat. Or finally letting out your breath when you hadn’t realised you’d been holding it. The overwhelming, exhilarating relief of it.  ‘You too? I thought it was just me.’ And not because your situations are necessarily identical.  Or you’re facing exactly the same struggles.  No, it’s something else. The joy of letting down …Read More

Bloody Nativity

By December 24, 2014 Blog
sheep face

This time 2000-odd years ago, where were Mary and Joseph? Nesting, I’m sure. Clearing a space for their newborn between the animals and the filthy hay. Getting the manger just so. Top quality straw from Mothercare.  Harrod’s finest flock. Or perhaps they were still on the road, looking forward to a nice warm inn and a cup of tea. ‘Not long now, sweetheart – hang in there. Nice Travel lodge, just around the corner, I can feel it…’ The truth is, they didn’t follow …Read More

Words of Life

By December 23, 2014 Blog

From Nehemiah 9:   You alone are the Lord You give me life. By day you lead me and by night, you give me light. You give me heavenly bread for my hunger You give me water for my thirst You forgive me You are gracious to me You show me compassion You are slow to get angry with me You show me abundant love. You hear me You rescue me You deliver me. You will not desert me You …Read More

Boxed In

By December 22, 2014 Blog

One of the things I like most about Christmas, is boxes.  Lots of boxes.  What’s in them is irrelevant.  It’s the box itself that’s beautiful.  Clean lines and corners.  Sealant and staples.  Neat.  Tidy.  Contained. Perfect – until you unwrap it.  And then – MESS!  HORRIBLE MESS! Sellotape and spillage and then, not even bubble wrap but those pointless snow ball things you’re still hoovering in May. The solution is obvious.  Don’t Open The Box.  Keep it, shuttered and secure, somewhere dark, where only …Read More

Grace and Failure

By December 21, 2014 Blog

I think in grids.  Lists.  Deadlines.  Monochromes. Good – or bad.  Worthwhile – or useless. Perfect – or pathetic. This works well in the Maths classroom.  But not in life. I cannot be perfect.  I can do my best – and that’s a lot.  But it’s not the same thing. It’s not what God wants for me.  It’s not what I want for myself.  Or my marriage.  Or my child. It’s bad enough when it’s just me. But when it’s someone …Read More