Welcoming An Adopted Child: Guest Post

By April 5, 2016 Blog

Today’s guest post is from Jane, who is married with three children. Hannah (7) and Ben (5) are her birth children and she has recently adopted Star (4) who has Down’s Syndrome. Here’s her advice on helping birth siblings welcome a new arrival… 1. Involve birth children in the adoption conversation early We first discussed adoption with our birth children approximately two years before Star arrived. In fact we talked to them before we spoke to anyone else. At that …Read More

No Choices, Only Grace

By February 15, 2016 Blog

Guest post from Glen: How do you capture the grief of losing a five year old child? Ryan and Amy Green, a Christian couple from Colorado, made a game about it “That Dragon, Cancer“, which people are calling “the most profound videogame ever.” Since Emma showed it to me, I can’t stop thinking about it. It did not begin life as a memorial. The game was birthed while hopes were high for Joel’s healing. He had been diagnosed with brain cancer …Read More

Simple Enough for Grown-Ups

By October 23, 2014 Blog

My friend Alice has just written a stonking book about sharing Jesus with pre-schoolers. I asked her if she’d talk a bit about it – and her own relationship with God. Is her writing an expression of confident and overflowing spirituality?  Or has it been part of the process of learning to walk with Him? You might be surprised by her answer… “Christian writers are people with unshakeable faith in God, right? Well, my first book has just come out and it’s all about Jesus – …Read More

Dad Wisdom

By September 11, 2014 Blog

After yesterday’s post, (things I’d like my child to know), I asked Glen what he would add.  Here’s his list;   You’re loved before you do anything – that’s why we baptised you when all you could do was lie there and receive it. You belong to Jesus before you belong to us – that’s why we baptised you, putting God’s name on you above every other name. You belong to church before you belong to any other earthly body – …Read More

20 lessons

By September 10, 2014 Blog

The things I want to teach my child: 1. Jesus loves you. He’ll never leave you. He says you are precious and lovely and He even sings over you. He’s got great plans for you and He is trustworthy and  more beautiful than anything else in the world. 2. It’s good to take and risks. It’s good to climb trees and rip your clothes and stand up for things other people don’t agree with.  I’m proud of you for trying: that’s what really counts. …Read More

In Defense of Dawkins

By August 21, 2014 Blog

Last night we felt our baby kick. Except that, of course, it’s not a baby. It’s a fetus. A potential  life – which is apparently very different.  For one thing, he (or she) must earn the right to exist.  If that child is flawed  or substandard; if the foot that nudged my husband’s hand is say, deformed  or misshapen, well obviously we have the right to withdraw all protection and care. In fact, it’s our moral duty to do so. Yesterday, a woman tweeted Richard Dawkins with these words, …Read More

Caught and Carried

By January 13, 2014 Blog

Today has been a really horrible day.  We’re coming to the end of IVF round three but the drugs seem to have stopped working.  We don’t know why. If there’s no change in the next few days, the cycle will be cancelled. ‘I’m sorry’, says Glen. ‘It still might work.  There are other options and this does not define us’.  I look at him and I’m crying and I say It might not define you but it defines me.  And …Read More

Help: My Child Has An Eating Disorder

By September 11, 2013 Blog

You suspect your child may have an eating disorder.  What now? First, don’t panic. There’s a difference between picky eating and an eating disorder:  many children have phases where mealtimes are tricky so it might be nothing. (See here for possible signs). Most kids who develop anorexia do so between the ages of 11 and 14 (although it can start as early as age 6), and there are many reasons why. However, go with your guts. If you suspect something is wrong, talk to …Read More

Last Night

By August 27, 2013 Blog

At 8.30 this morning, the hospital phoned. Our embryo died last night. We don’t know how to feel. This has helped. Thank you for your love and prayers.     Share…

Not A Dream

By August 26, 2013 Blog

Our embryo has been growing.  Tomorrow, I go into hospital and they put her back. (I say her: it feels wrong to say ‘it’). Last night I had two dreams. In the first one I was at a banquet, surrounded by friends.  I excused myself to go to the loo. But then I started bleeding.  It wouldn’t stop and I couldn’t get the cubicle clean and I couldn’t go back out. In the second dream I was in an old-style …Read More