Signs it’s time to ask for help

By September 19, 2017 Blog

–       You say that you’re fine; but you know that you’re not –       You’ve said ‘I’ll get better’ but you’re just getting worse. –       Everything is terrible and it’s all your fault –       Acting recklessly or putting yourself in danger –       Forgetting to do big things that matter; like washing or eating –       Not being able to make sense of anything –       Finding basic tasks impossible –       Using drugs, alcohol or damaging …Read More

Thankfulness Myths

By August 21, 2017 Blog

1. It’s a chore. No! Thankfulness isn’t  an exercise like flossing, to make you a more rounded person. It’s a whole new way of looking at the world. It’s a command and a habit and an opportunity.  It is more than writing a list before you go to bed – though this might be a help.  It’s risky and thrilling and it changes you and the people around you. 2. It’s based on the good stuff you’ve got. Thankfulness is much …Read More

The Antidote to Shame

By June 27, 2017 Blog

In Hebrew, the word for ‘shame’ goes beyond feeling embarrassed for yourself.  It’s about hoping in something foolish; (false gods are sometimes called “shame”). It’s the  anguish you feel when both you and the things in which you have trusted, are exposed. Idols are “things of shame” – false sources of confidence and identity. But their shame is contagious – they make us shameful too! Here’s the cycle: We go to shameful things to feel OK. They make us feel even more shameful, so …Read More

Glemma Podcast

By April 11, 2017 Blog

Glen and I waffling about my new book, (part of a series called The Evangelist’s Podcast, where he interviews folks about their faith). Plus bonus material on the antibacterial merits of garlic.   Share…

Shame-less

By April 6, 2017 Blog

A few days ago, I was taking Ruby for a walk. It was mid-afternoon and she was building a tower of pebbles on the beach. My phone (which had been off all day), buzzed with an urgent question from my publisher. So I tapped out a two sentence reply. In the time it took me to type, Ruby ran behind me and tripped over the pebbles. It was my fault.  I’d taken my eyes off her and she could have been hurt. …Read More

I said I was Fine…

By December 6, 2016 Blog

But here’s what I mean… I’m in a rush I think I’m going to cry but don’t know you well enough to say so I’m not sure how I feel, and I’m too knackered to figure it out I’m English I’m filtering: are you interested enough to keep asking? I don’t want to burden you I want you to read my mind I don’t know how to ask for help I feel I ought to be fine I’m ashamed of being needy This is …Read More

Joy is what you fight for

By November 7, 2016 Blog

“Choose happiness.” It’s an easy phrase, isn’t it?  Catchy.  Scratch it over a sunset and hang it on the wall.  A simple decision.  Today, I choose to be happy. Bang; and it’s done. This is what I’m told. The reality can be very different.  It’s all well and good when you’re well and good…but when you’re not, – well.  Positive thinking doesn’t make it any better. Happiness happens to you. It’s there or it’s not. It’s your situation. The home you’ve dreamed …Read More

The Loudest Voice

By August 14, 2016 Blog

I am SICK of the voices. “Not good enough.” “Should do better.” “Must try harder.” “Fed-up.  Useless.  Hopeless.”  “Shameful.” If anyone else spoke to me like this, I’d cut them off. “You’re not my friend,” I’d tell them. “Get out of my life.” If someone spoke them to my daughter, I wouldn’t bother with words.  I’d punch them.  I’d push them over and pull them very close.  I’d whisper, “if you feed her these lies – the lies you told me, the lies I tell myself …Read More

Christmas Tactics

By December 18, 2015 Blog

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. But if it’s not – 1. Get some quality time in with the Lord. I say this, because it’s an area where I struggle. And it’s His birthday. 2. Have an escape plan. If there’s an event coming and you really can’t face it, work out an excuse for leaving early and your route home. 3. Delegate. Sometimes people like to feel involved. (Sometimes they don’t, but that’s just too bad). 4. Ban …Read More

Guest Post: Can Despair Be Worship?

By August 19, 2015 Blog

Glen here. On Sunday I preached the darkest Psalm in the Bible: Psalm 88. It’s 18 verses of unrelenting anguish and confusion and yet… the Holy Spirit authored it, Jesus prayed it and the Father hears it. In fact he has continued to hear it prayed by millions around the world for the best part of three millennia. It belongs to a whole category of Psalms – laments – which are the most common forms of prayer in the Psalter. Almost …Read More