13 Reasons Why Not

By June 5, 2017 Blog

We’ve just finished watching the series ’13 Reasons Why.’ It’s about a teenage girl, Hannah, who kills herself; and the 13 people she blames for her decision. My feelings on it are mixed. It graphically depicts issues such as self-harm, rape, addiction and suicide; all of which need to be discussed. It also teaches us how to spot warning signs in vulnerable teenagers and to ask, ‘what would I do? How could I have helped?’ These are vital questions; but there …Read More

Why it’s gonna be okay

By May 29, 2017 Blog

You can’t fix the past – and you don’t need to. Redemption means that everything, even your worst, your most shameful moments, are covered. They are being woven into something beautiful. You can’t live in the future – and you wouldn’t want to. Even the future you desperately want – the one you dare not name because it’s too painful to open your heart to hope; even that would be no good for you right now. The future needs to …Read More

Talking back to Anxiety

By May 3, 2017 Blog

I don’t know what the future holds. Sometimes I think of what might happen and I panic. How will I cope?  Who will care for those I love? But my heart steadies as I remember these words: “The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?  The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” Psalm 27:1 If I can only get through this.  If I just take charge of this. If I can change this. If I get this. On and …Read More

Our Champion

By February 7, 2017 Blog

My alarm rings and I’m up like a shot.  Well, a slow shot.  I’m excited about the day ahead and the challenges that God has in store.  I’m confident of His goodness, open to His leading and flexible enough to roll with whatever He has planned. It’s gonna be a glorious day. … The alarm really goes off and this time I’m not dreaming. I crawl out of bed, croaking for caffeine.  I’m daunted by the day ahead and all …Read More

Some helps for when you’re sinking

By November 16, 2016 Blog

Nothing very profound.  But when you feel rubbish, small things can help. ask a friend to come and be with you.  Not with heavy chats (unless you want them). No expectation to be sociable or entertain. Just a comforting presence; someone to watch TV with and a way of connecting safely with the world outside. stick to a routine.  If you normally get up at 7, keep getting up at 7.  If you usually take the dog for a walk, keep going. There may be things (like work) that …Read More

Joy is what you fight for

By November 7, 2016 Blog

“Choose happiness.” It’s an easy phrase, isn’t it?  Catchy.  Scratch it over a sunset and hang it on the wall.  A simple decision.  Today, I choose to be happy. Bang; and it’s done. This is what I’m told. The reality can be very different.  It’s all well and good when you’re well and good…but when you’re not, – well.  Positive thinking doesn’t make it any better. Happiness happens to you. It’s there or it’s not. It’s your situation. The home you’ve dreamed …Read More

A New Year. And That’s Good

By December 30, 2015 Blog

Hope. Whatever you’re facing; (and even if you’re refusing to face it). Not a wishy-washy sense that everything will be okay. Not a feeling or a temperament. Not a stake in something that can be torn away. Hope. Not something you work up by yourself. Not dependent on those around you. Not about your house or your health or your happiness. Hope. Not for other people. Not for when you’ve earned it and ticked off your list. Not for when the holiday …Read More

Help! Here’s How:

By November 25, 2015 Blog

1. Take off my label.  If I’m going to move forward, I need to know that I am more than this. I can’t yet see it.  But you can help me grow into someone that doesn’t yet exist. 2. Be real. The gospel says we’re made of the same sinful, broken, redeemed, grace-hungry stuff. Show me this is true.  Don’t pity or patronise me. Be my friend. 3. Point up, not in. I want you to save me.  I want you to …Read More

Stuck?

By October 19, 2015 Blog

1. sometimes you’ll feel angry or sad or overwhelmed or unsafe or crazy.  These feelings are not the truth. They are feelings and they will pass. 2. your circumstances will change. Suffering has a ‘used by’ date. Only Jesus’ future is forever. There is hope. You will feel better. 3. when everyday tasks feel overwhelming, breathe and remind yourself to go a step at a time.  Try to keep to routines; but don’t beat yourself up when you can’t. 4. you may feel alone …Read More

How to Keep Going

By September 7, 2015 Blog

1. It’s not about having faith in yourself or a general sense that things will work out ok. It’s about a concrete faith in the living Lord Jesus and the rock-solid promise that He will finish what He has started. 2. Having this faith does not mean you always feel it. You can love and trust the Lord but still be mired in deep depression. You can cling to His promises and still have doubts. What you feel is NOT …Read More