How to stay in love

By January 31, 2018 Blog

Joshua 23:11: “Be very careful to love the LORD your God.”   tell Him what you love about Him make a point of saying thank-you for the big and little things you take for granted sit in silence together keep talking.  Before you go to anyone else, tell Him listen – really listen – to Him. (Don’t assume, limit or caricature Him). remind yourself of why you first fell in love share a good book. eat together. spend time with …Read More

Abba and Babba

By February 9, 2016 Blog

I’m afraid my daughter takes after me. Tell her she can’t have something and straight away, she wants it. The jagged rock. The rusty tin-opener.  The kitchen cleaner. Today we’ve lurched from one potential disaster to another.   DON’T PUT YOUR FINGERS IN THE PLUG NO, THAT’S THE CAT’S ANGRY FACE GIVE THE KNIFE TO MUMMY WHAT’S THAT IN YOUR MOUTH?  SPIT IT OUT RUBY, SPIT IT OUT   Surrounded by stacking rings, spoons, story books, shape sorters, bubbles, blocks and balls, she wants …Read More

Rules of Parenting

By February 1, 2016 Blog

My parents are baby-sitting my daughter tomorrow. So I’ve left them instructions.   Rules of Parenting: 1. Don’t make her wear a hat or coat – especially if it’s cold outside.  She might catch a cold, but suffering is good and will develop her character. 2.  If she gets sick, don’t give her medicine.  She can get better if she believes she can. 3. Always give her exactly what she wants.  For example, if she wants to play near the fire, let …Read More

Bad things are not good.

By January 12, 2016 Blog

When bad things happen to you or the people you love, how do you try to comfort them? “It’s not so bad?” “It’ll all work out for the best?” “Things could be worse.  I heard of one guy who…” “Don’t waste time worrying about it.”   If you’re a Christian, maybe you say this: “God’s in charge so He must have caused/wanted this.” “God has made it happen for a reason, even if we can’t see it.” “God doesn’t want …Read More

Bleeding Love

By January 20, 2015 Blog

The last few weeks have been a whirlwind, a learning curve, a journey and a million other cliches that try – and fail to capture the reality. Nappies, stitches and sleepless nights, I was prepared for.  What I hadn’t anticipated was the heart surgery. The fierce and painful emotion that courses, hot, through every vein. Love, I suppose.  But not like I love my cats or I love books or I love mashed potatoes. Something else – primitive and frightening.  I’d die …Read More

Boxed In

By December 22, 2014 Blog

One of the things I like most about Christmas, is boxes.  Lots of boxes.  What’s in them is irrelevant.  It’s the box itself that’s beautiful.  Clean lines and corners.  Sealant and staples.  Neat.  Tidy.  Contained. Perfect – until you unwrap it.  And then – MESS!  HORRIBLE MESS! Sellotape and spillage and then, not even bubble wrap but those pointless snow ball things you’re still hoovering in May. The solution is obvious.  Don’t Open The Box.  Keep it, shuttered and secure, somewhere dark, where only …Read More

Hard World, Kind God

By November 23, 2014 Blog

Most of the time, I live life like I’m dreaming. Maybe you’re the same. It takes no effort – the minutes propel us forwards, into routines of socks and schedules and sandwiches.  Days, weeks, months…years like waves, lulling us to sleep. Life – unchanging, except for a peppering of balloons and wreaths; anniversaries, birthdays and deaths. But sometimes, something happens to shake us awake. An event.  Perhaps a tragedy. And once we’ve been woken, we can’t go back to sleep.  The world looks …Read More

Father Talk

By June 22, 2014 Blog

Thanks to J for showing me this: A letter from your Dad: You may not know me, but I know everything about you. Psalm 139:1 I know when you sit down and when you rise up. Psalm 139:2 I am familiar with all your ways.Psalm 139:3 Even the very hairs on your head are numbered. Matthew 10:29-31 For you were made in my image. Genesis 1:27 In me you live and move and have your being. Acts 17:28 For you are my offspring. Acts 17:28 I knew …Read More

The Original and The Best

By June 15, 2014 Blog

Whatever your experience with your earthly father, as a Christian,  this is your heavenly Father: He loves us: I led them with cords of human kindness, with ties of love. To them I was like one who lifts a little child to the cheek, and I bent down to feed them. Hosea 11:4 He knew us even in our mother’s womb: For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully …Read More

What God is Not

By March 10, 2014 Blog

God is not: holy Berocca: extra-special energy for extreme situations, or a pick-me-up for bad days your homeboy a lunch date for Sundays a policeman waiting to pounce a prankster: tying your laces and giggling when you trip a portable teddy bear:  wheel him out for cuddles when you’re feeling sad. a provider of parking spaces lonely and in need of mates a hole that fits between your pancreas and kidneys Gandalf divine disinfectant: to be sprayed into tricky corners …Read More