Walking with the worried

By March 21, 2017 Blog

Over the years I’ve struggled with anxiety. At its worst, it’s paralysing, leaving me unable to think or move or breathe. Simple tasks feel fraught with danger and overwhelming significance.  Little tasks, like chores feel overwhelming. Ask me what’s wrong and I can’t explain. There’s a list of trivialities, but nothing to explain the sense that everything is breaking. So how can I help myself? And how can I (and others like me), be helped? Take me seriously: but not my fears. Anxiety is like a whirlpool …Read More

We will miss you

By March 13, 2017 Blog

We were drowning; and no-one knew what to do. The doctor said he couldn’t help. A pastor with more than 20 years of experience said ‘this is too much.’ We felt like giving up; like we’d gone beyond hope.  But where the experts failed; ordinary Christians stood in the gaps. Folks like Mike and Heather Ovey; our tutor and his wife. Week after week they invited us into their home and listened to us and prayed with us and made us feel …Read More

Project Justify-Me

By March 10, 2017 Blog

Guest post from Glen… Tuesday night, 11:30pm. After 5 hours at A&E, Emma and I were putting a screaming toddler to bed. The doorbell went. “Who could that be?” asked Emma. Somehow I knew. Clarity pierced through the cloud of tiredness, set-upon-ness, and noble sufferer-ness that I’d been nurturing all evening. Suddenly I realised I was guilty – of a crime that, without the doorbell, I’d have blithely ignored. But with the bell came instant conviction. And rest. You see, …Read More

What Lent means to me

By March 2, 2017 Blog

I have mixed feelings about Lent. Part of me wants to throw myself into it with super-human resolve. Part of me fears I’ll do exactly this. I have a long history of eating disorders, depression and perfectionism.  Ask me to fast for 40 days and I’ll do forty-one. Tell me to do 40 press-ups and I’ll do 400. I’m all about a certain kind of ‘self-restraint.’ But it’s nearly killed me. You’ll tell me, rightly, that this is not what …Read More

Gritty Love

By February 22, 2017 Blog

Real love is not in the grand gestures, the dazzling diamond or the flourish of flowers. It’s not a stunning white dress a first dance or a heart carved into wood. Real love is not wet-eyed sentiment; a puppy or a perfect child. It’s messy and painful; not scented or neat. Real love is wiping up Weetabix and changing dirty sheets. It’s a series of tiny moments a hand on the shoulder serving, even when you’re tired It’s a smile – but also a …Read More

Why Christianity is better than Cryonics

By November 24, 2016 Blog

This week, a 14 year-old girl who died of cancer, won a legal battle to have her body frozen.  This is part of a process called cryonics, which tries to stop the decaying process, by freezing the body at it is at the point of death. It’s a heart-breaking situation; for a 14 year old who has to consider her own death; and for those left behind. In a letter to the court, she wrote this: “I have been asked to explain why I want this …Read More

Ten Ways I’m Like Donald Trump

By October 17, 2016 Blog

I dislike everything he stands for and I’d happily campaign against him. But instead of just condemning his policies or his words; I find myself condemning him. And enjoying it. He makes me feel shocked. But I like being shocked. I want to see more. I want to reinforce how much better I am than he is.  How much more educated.  Smarter.  Kinder. Better. I’m better than he is, I think.  I would never speak his words; or do what he does. And …Read More

Porn: What lies beneath

By October 3, 2016 Blog

Guest post by Glen (based on this earlier article) How does porn impact a young girl who discovers her father’s stash?  Michelle VanLoon writes about it in My Father The Porn Addict.  This sentence struck me more than any other: Porn taught me that the single most important thing to grown-ups was this mysterious world of fantasy, pain, and animalistic impulses too powerful to ignore. Porn peddles a lie that becomes “the single most important thing” for those who buy into …Read More

Christianity is for the Mentally Ill

By September 26, 2016 Blog

Can I be a Christian and have mental health issues? YES. Jesus comes for everyone. But more than this, Jesus can be especially attractive to those of us who struggle in this way. Here’s why.. 1.     Jesus comes for the sick.  Time and time again, He reaches out to all those who know themselves to be weak…weak in body, weak in spirit, weak in mind.  He goes to those who cut themselves off from others and harm themselves; whether promiscuity (the woman at …Read More

12 Ways Christianity is Different to Spirituality

By September 22, 2016 Blog

Sometimes when I talk to others about Christianity, they say, “don’t worry, I’m very spiritual.” This can mean lots of different things.  It might mean that they have an appreciation for the immensity and beauty of the universe.  It might mean that they have a strong sense of morality or social justice.  It might mean they believe in angels. It might mean that they don’t want to offend me, (or want me to shut up about Jesus). It might mean that they have …Read More