Gritty Love

By February 22, 2017 Blog

Real love is not in the grand gestures, the dazzling diamond or the flourish of flowers. It’s not a stunning white dress a first dance or a heart carved into wood. Real love is not wet-eyed sentiment; a puppy or a perfect child. It’s messy and painful; not scented or neat. Real love is wiping up Weetabix and changing dirty sheets. It’s a series of tiny moments a hand on the shoulder serving, even when you’re tired It’s a smile – but also a …Read More

Why Christianity is better than Cryonics

By November 24, 2016 Blog

This week, a 14 year-old girl who died of cancer, won a legal battle to have her body frozen.  This is part of a process called cryonics, which tries to stop the decaying process, by freezing the body at it is at the point of death. It’s a heart-breaking situation; for a 14 year old who has to consider her own death; and for those left behind. In a letter to the court, she wrote this: “I have been asked to explain why I want this …Read More

Ten Ways I’m Like Donald Trump

By October 17, 2016 Blog

I dislike everything he stands for and I’d happily campaign against him. But instead of just condemning his policies or his words; I find myself condemning him. And enjoying it. He makes me feel shocked. But I like being shocked. I want to see more. I want to reinforce how much better I am than he is.  How much more educated.  Smarter.  Kinder. Better. I’m better than he is, I think.  I would never speak his words; or do what he does. And …Read More

Porn: What lies beneath

By October 3, 2016 Blog

Guest post by Glen (based on this earlier article) How does porn impact a young girl who discovers her father’s stash?  Michelle VanLoon writes about it in My Father The Porn Addict.  This sentence struck me more than any other: Porn taught me that the single most important thing to grown-ups was this mysterious world of fantasy, pain, and animalistic impulses too powerful to ignore. Porn peddles a lie that becomes “the single most important thing” for those who buy into …Read More

Christianity is for the Mentally Ill

By September 26, 2016 Blog

Can I be a Christian and have mental health issues? YES. Jesus comes for everyone. But more than this, Jesus can be especially attractive to those of us who struggle in this way. Here’s why.. 1.     Jesus comes for the sick.  Time and time again, He reaches out to all those who know themselves to be weak…weak in body, weak in spirit, weak in mind.  He goes to those who cut themselves off from others and harm themselves; whether promiscuity (the woman at …Read More

12 Ways Christianity is Different to Spirituality

By September 22, 2016 Blog

Sometimes when I talk to others about Christianity, they say, “don’t worry, I’m very spiritual.” This can mean lots of different things.  It might mean that they have an appreciation for the immensity and beauty of the universe.  It might mean that they have a strong sense of morality or social justice.  It might mean they believe in angels. It might mean that they don’t want to offend me, (or want me to shut up about Jesus). It might mean that they have …Read More

The Loudest Voice

By August 14, 2016 Blog

I am SICK of the voices. “Not good enough.” “Should do better.” “Must try harder.” “Fed-up.  Useless.  Hopeless.”  “Shameful.” If anyone else spoke to me like this, I’d cut them off. “You’re not my friend,” I’d tell them. “Get out of my life.” If someone spoke them to my daughter, I wouldn’t bother with words.  I’d punch them.  I’d push them over and pull them very close.  I’d whisper, “if you feed her these lies – the lies you told me, the lies I tell myself …Read More

Sunday slot

By August 3, 2016 Blog

Sorry there’s no blog this week – we’re in Keswick, enjoying the lovely lakes!  As part of the week I gave a 4 minute testimony, and it’s airing along with a fab sermon (and some rousing hymns) on Radio 4, this Sunday. If you fancy listening, (and even better, praying since it’ll go out to many people), then go here. Thank-you!   Share…

In It Together

By July 21, 2016 Blog

Sometimes I look at other Christians and think, “you guys have got it together; but I’m a mess. Your problems are fix-able; mine are too much!” This is not the truth and it’s not the shape of gospel community.  In real community, we carry one another and we share our mutual struggles.   You’re not the fixer and I’m not a project. You’re not “fine” and I’m not “a mess.” We have different struggles and at different points we might need extra …Read More

As You Are

By July 13, 2016 Blog

Comparisons are an unavoidable part of life. They start from the moment you’re born. “Who does she take after?” “Ooh, she’s got her dad’s nose/mum’s temper.” And on it goes… “How old is she?  Is she walking yet?  At her age, our Jimmy could somersault.” You try to resist them. You brush them off. “Ah, she’ll do it in her own time.” But like dust, they settle.  The doubts and the shoulds… “She should be crawling.” “She should be talking.” “We should be worried…” But what’s the …Read More