More than words

By August 29, 2017 Blog

Last week I was asked this question (for a website on self-development), “(In 50 words) What’s the best book you’ve read on self development and how is it different from the rest?” I thought of the self development books I’d read. Books with helpful insights on mental health issues.  Books offering practical advice about relationships.  Books with tips on managing emotions or improving my health. Books by lay people and books by medics.  Books for groups and books for individuals. …Read More

Lies about Recovery

By August 8, 2017 Blog

It might be an out and out addiction.  Or a habit that’s becoming something more. Either way, it’s got you – and here’s what it whispers… 1. I can’t do it.    – Yes you can.  But see point 2… 2. I can do it alone.  – You can’t – no-one can. 3. It’s gonna be easy.  – It may well be the hardest thing you’ve ever done…but also the most worthwhile.  Long-term, the alternative is much, much harder. 4. It’s …Read More

Battle Ready

By August 2, 2017 Blog

I’m nervous. There’s a big event approaching and I don’t feel up to it.  I’ve prepped and I’ve packed.  But as the minutes tick down, I pull out the big guns. A slash of lipstick. A mask of foundation. Concealer to hide my weakness. A cloak of expensive perfume. Painted talons and whitened fangs. Warpaint. And Now I’m ready. What’s your armour? What helps you, when you know you’re not enough? Perhaps it’s food. A wall between you and your …Read More

Living by Doubt

By July 20, 2017 Blog

Don’t listen to yourself. You are not the best judge of how you’re doing.  In fact, it’s most likely that you are the worst. I think, ‘I’m doing fine,” when I’m not.  I believe that I’m “hopeless and rubbish,” when I’m loved and chosen by God and filled by his Holy Spirit. I assume that, “I’ll never succeed so I’d better give up…” when true glory isn’t winning, but stepping out and stumbling on. There are a thousand reasons I …Read More

The Shape of Me: Guest Post

By July 11, 2017 Blog

Thanks so much to H for this brilliant guest post…   I am so, so caught with my appearance…I know this is only a symptom of deeper problems. Yet I just want to pause and ask the question, why am I so concerned with ‘the shape of me’? It is right to care how I present myself because I am not just my own person. Being concerned with ‘the shape of me’ is a desire that needs to be channelled, focused, redirected. I …Read More

Hot off the press

By July 10, 2017 Blog

Here’s a couple of articles I’ve written recently for Christianity and IDEA magazines. Thanks to these fab publications for letting me write – I really recommend them both. (Amaris – we will miss you!) One note – The IDEA feature was part of an issue on the theme of freedom.  They’ve called it, ‘How God set me free from an eating disorder’ – but my original title was ‘The shape of freedom’.  I think it fits the piece better (as it’s not simply about …Read More

The Antidote to Shame

By June 27, 2017 Blog

In Hebrew, the word for ‘shame’ goes beyond feeling embarrassed for yourself.  It’s about hoping in something foolish; (false gods are sometimes called “shame”). It’s the  anguish you feel when both you and the things in which you have trusted, are exposed. Idols are “things of shame” – false sources of confidence and identity. But their shame is contagious – they make us shameful too! Here’s the cycle: We go to shameful things to feel OK. They make us feel even more shameful, so …Read More

Ever so humble?

By May 17, 2017 Blog

James 4 says, ‘Humble yourself before the Lord.’ But what does this look like? Here’s one option.  If pride is “bigging myself up”, then  humility must be about putting myself down. In other words; self-hatred, pretending to be godly. (I hate myself but sell it as meekness). self-deprecation, ‘oh no, it was nothing,’ (just ALL MY HARD WORK). martyrdom, (glaring over the dishes whilst others relax and saying, ‘no, I’m Fine.  You just kick back and I’ll keep washing’). putting myself down to critical friends and …Read More

The Problem with ‘Authentic’

By April 30, 2017 Blog

I’ve got a problem with authenticity. I know – that sounds bad. Like saying I hate kittens. Or sunshine. Or happiness. Because authenticity is such a lovely, fluffy, catch-all term. Everyone wants it and everyone loves it. What’s not to like?   Here are some memes on authenticity: ‘By choosing to be our most authentic self, we leave a trail of magic wherever we go’  ‘There is nothing more beautiful than your authentic self’ ‘People who are true to their authentic …Read More

Glemma Podcast

By April 11, 2017 Blog

Glen and I waffling about my new book, (part of a series called The Evangelist’s Podcast, where he interviews folks about their faith). Plus bonus material on the antibacterial merits of garlic.   Share…