Ever so humble?

By May 17, 2017 Blog

James 4 says, ‘Humble yourself before the Lord.’ But what does this look like? Here’s one option.  If pride is “bigging myself up”, then  humility must be about putting myself down. In other words; self-hatred, pretending to be godly. (I hate myself but sell it as meekness). self-deprecation, ‘oh no, it was nothing,’ (just ALL MY HARD WORK). martyrdom, (glaring over the dishes whilst others relax and saying, ‘no, I’m Fine.  You just kick back and I’ll keep washing’). putting myself down to critical friends and …Read More

The Problem with ‘Authentic’

By April 30, 2017 Blog

I’ve got a problem with authenticity. I know – that sounds bad. Like saying I hate kittens. Or sunshine. Or happiness. Because authenticity is such a lovely, fluffy, catch-all term. Everyone wants it and everyone loves it. What’s not to like?   Here are some memes on authenticity: ‘By choosing to be our most authentic self, we leave a trail of magic wherever we go’  ‘There is nothing more beautiful than your authentic self’ ‘People who are true to their authentic …Read More

Glemma Podcast

By April 11, 2017 Blog

Glen and I waffling about my new book, (part of a series called The Evangelist’s Podcast, where he interviews folks about their faith). Plus bonus material on the antibacterial merits of garlic.   Share…

Shame-less

By April 6, 2017 Blog

A few days ago, I was taking Ruby for a walk. It was mid-afternoon and she was building a tower of pebbles on the beach. My phone (which had been off all day), buzzed with an urgent question from my publisher. So I tapped out a two sentence reply. In the time it took me to type, Ruby ran behind me and tripped over the pebbles. It was my fault.  I’d taken my eyes off her and she could have been hurt. …Read More

What Lent means to me

By March 2, 2017 Blog

I have mixed feelings about Lent. Part of me wants to throw myself into it with super-human resolve. Part of me fears I’ll do exactly this. I have a long history of eating disorders, depression and perfectionism.  Ask me to fast for 40 days and I’ll do forty-one. Tell me to do 40 press-ups and I’ll do 400. I’m all about a certain kind of ‘self-restraint.’ But it’s nearly killed me. You’ll tell me, rightly, that this is not what …Read More

Forked Tongue

By February 15, 2017 Blog

Satan whispers, “Don’t worry about that sin, that pattern, that temptation. It’s no big deal.’ Then when you fall for it, he shouts, “You’ve blown it! What a wretch you are! God won’t want to hear from you now, not for another fortnight at least. Not till you’ve made it all better.” But you can’t make it better. And the whispers start again. … ‘Stuck eh? Well what do you expect? Sin is in your genes – unavoidable, no matter how …Read More

Ten Ways I’m Like Donald Trump

By October 17, 2016 Blog

I dislike everything he stands for and I’d happily campaign against him. But instead of just condemning his policies or his words; I find myself condemning him. And enjoying it. He makes me feel shocked. But I like being shocked. I want to see more. I want to reinforce how much better I am than he is.  How much more educated.  Smarter.  Kinder. Better. I’m better than he is, I think.  I would never speak his words; or do what he does. And …Read More

(No) Excuses for Relapse

By October 10, 2016 Blog

1. I’ve been working really hard and I deserve a break.  (Sorry, but no. Good on you for working hard; but the thing you want a break from is a life-dominating whirlpool of addiction that will suck you down if you dip your toe in). 2. I can handle it. (You can’t.  It’s bigger than you – which is why you need Jesus and other people and all the support you can get). 3. I’ve learned from my mistakes.  (Great! So don’t …Read More

Christianity is for the Mentally Ill

By September 26, 2016 Blog

Can I be a Christian and have mental health issues? YES. Jesus comes for everyone. But more than this, Jesus can be especially attractive to those of us who struggle in this way. Here’s why.. 1.     Jesus comes for the sick.  Time and time again, He reaches out to all those who know themselves to be weak…weak in body, weak in spirit, weak in mind.  He goes to those who cut themselves off from others and harm themselves; whether promiscuity (the woman at …Read More

Write Your Own Obituary

By August 22, 2016 Blog

She excelled in everything she did. She was charismatic and attractive. She knew what she wanted – and she got it.   Nope.  Barbara Cartland heroine.  The sort of woman I’d cross the world to avoid. Try again:   She kept a lovely home.  She had excellent taste in furnishings. She knew exactly what colours suited her best. She recycled and occasionally gave blood. She worked hard and had moderate success in her chosen field. She rarely had a bad hair day. …Read More