The Loudest Voice

By August 14, 2016 Blog

I am SICK of the voices. “Not good enough.” “Should do better.” “Must try harder.” “Fed-up.  Useless.  Hopeless.”  “Shameful.” If anyone else spoke to me like this, I’d cut them off. “You’re not my friend,” I’d tell them. “Get out of my life.” If someone spoke them to my daughter, I wouldn’t bother with words.  I’d punch them.  I’d push them over and pull them very close.  I’d whisper, “if you feed her these lies – the lies you told me, the lies I tell myself …Read More

My Wheelchair is a Tool, Not a Box

By August 10, 2016 Blog

This week we have a guest post from the “marvellous” Elizabeth B :-)… … The church service has come to an end and I’m wending my way towards the exit, mingling as I go. She’s coming over in my direction and her smile, full of kindly intent, triggers a sense of impending danger in me. It’s going to be one of those conversations. “Hello” “Hello” “Do you get help?” I instantly recognise that this, apparently random, question is prompted by …Read More

Don’t Settle

By July 25, 2016 Blog

I don’t need to settle for a life half-lived. I’m not the lies I’ve always believed I’m not the patterns that I once learned I’m not the person that I’ve always been. I’m frightened; but I am not my fears. I am not in control; but that is good. I will not be bound by the chains that Christ has broken I will not despise what He calls precious I don’t believe in shame or self-hatred or self-improvements I believe in Jesus …Read More

In It Together

By July 21, 2016 Blog

Sometimes I look at other Christians and think, “you guys have got it together; but I’m a mess. Your problems are fix-able; mine are too much!” This is not the truth and it’s not the shape of gospel community.  In real community, we carry one another and we share our mutual struggles.   You’re not the fixer and I’m not a project. You’re not “fine” and I’m not “a mess.” We have different struggles and at different points we might need extra …Read More

As You Are

By July 13, 2016 Blog

Comparisons are an unavoidable part of life. They start from the moment you’re born. “Who does she take after?” “Ooh, she’s got her dad’s nose/mum’s temper.” And on it goes… “How old is she?  Is she walking yet?  At her age, our Jimmy could somersault.” You try to resist them. You brush them off. “Ah, she’ll do it in her own time.” But like dust, they settle.  The doubts and the shoulds… “She should be crawling.” “She should be talking.” “We should be worried…” But what’s the …Read More

Car Crash

By June 28, 2016 Blog

“How old are you? How much do you weigh? What did you eat that day? Well what did you have for dinner? Who made dinner? Did you drink with dinner? No, not even water? When did you drink? How much did you drink? What container did you drink out of? Who gave you the drink? How much do you usually drink? Who dropped you off at this party? At what time? But where exactly? What were you wearing? Why were …Read More

Helpless Helpers

By May 23, 2016 Blog

When I give my testimony, I sometimes talk to people afterwards.  The number one question I’m asked is this: How do I help my loved one give up an addiction? Every fibre of me wants to say, “here; here’s the answer.  Here’s what helps me; here’s what will help you.” But I can’t.  Because I don’t have one. For one thing, I’m far from the finished product.  I speak out of weakness, not as someone with answers, but someone who’s taking her questions …Read More

What’s Your Story?

By March 23, 2016 Blog

40acts is a generosity challenge for Lent. Each year the charity Stewardship ask people to take a daily challenge: 40 ways of giving back (instead of just giving up!) I’ve written today’s today’s blog on the theme of “testify” (and the next blog post will be an incredible example!) You can read the post and find out more here           Share…

Dear Me

By March 7, 2016 Blog

What do you do with the past?  The ways you’ve been broken?  The things that you broke? What do you do with the voices?  The accusations?  The lies? Jesus died.  But not for me. Jesus died. But not for this. No. There is no sin that the cross does not cover.  There is no pain that Christ cannot heal. Listen to this.  A letter that a dear friend has written to her younger self.  A letter that shows what it means …Read More

The Good Life

By February 29, 2016 Blog

When I ask friends what it means to be a Christian, they sometimes roll their eyes.  Press the point and out it comes, “being good.” Given that Jesus comes for sinners, this misses the point. But there’s another problem. “Being good” sounds, well, really bad. Painful. Or worthy, but dull. Goodness sounds like Butlins with the in-laws instead of Vegas with your mates. Socks and sandals instead of fish-net tights. Herbal teas and hold the sugar. But here’s the truth… If you want a good …Read More