No Place Like (Church) Home

By October 23, 2016 Blog

I love my church family.  I’m typing this now, because they are babysitting my daughter.  When she comes home, she’ll be grinning from ear to ear; and knowing she is safe and happy – I am too. I love my study group.  We’re completely different women from all walks of life – but we share our questions, our struggles and our hearts.  We’re real about our struggles and yet, they inspire me to live for Jesus; more than any perfect motivational speaker or book. I love …Read More

Motherhood Myths

By September 16, 2016 Blog

After a whole twenty months of being a parent,  I’m the very opposite of an expert. But here are some of the things I’m learning, (many from other, wiser teachers)… 1   Parenthood does not complete you.  It is a precious, precious gift; but it doesn’t make you less or more of a woman or man, or more or less valuable.  This is easy to say when you’ve got a child, (just like it’s easy to say that “singleness is good” from the …Read More

My Wheelchair is a Tool, Not a Box

By August 10, 2016 Blog

This week we have a guest post from the “marvellous” Elizabeth B :-)… … The church service has come to an end and I’m wending my way towards the exit, mingling as I go. She’s coming over in my direction and her smile, full of kindly intent, triggers a sense of impending danger in me. It’s going to be one of those conversations. “Hello” “Hello” “Do you get help?” I instantly recognise that this, apparently random, question is prompted by …Read More

As You Are

By July 13, 2016 Blog

Comparisons are an unavoidable part of life. They start from the moment you’re born. “Who does she take after?” “Ooh, she’s got her dad’s nose/mum’s temper.” And on it goes… “How old is she?  Is she walking yet?  At her age, our Jimmy could somersault.” You try to resist them. You brush them off. “Ah, she’ll do it in her own time.” But like dust, they settle.  The doubts and the shoulds… “She should be crawling.” “She should be talking.” “We should be worried…” But what’s the …Read More

Split Vote

By July 4, 2016 Blog

We voted, Glen and I. We talked about it and we prayed about it. We both did our research and we both sought advice from wise Christian friends. Both of us could justify our decisions and both felt that we knew the right thing to do. But I voted to remain and Glen voted to leave. And we are still together.   I don’t think he’s pro-racist, he doesn’t think I’m anti-democratic. He’s not crowing in victory and I’m not …Read More

Growing Grown-Ups

By May 11, 2016 Blog

We were speaking in Birmingham over the weekend.  During the q and as, one question kept coming up.  How do we protect our children from  depression, self-hatred and anxiety?  How can we raise them to be strong, but weak in all the right ways? I wish I knew the answer.   So I asked some friends. Here’s some of their wisdom – and please share yours. don’t try and be perfect.  Kids don’t need perfect parents (and trying will kill us), but they …Read More

Welcoming An Adopted Child: Guest Post

By April 5, 2016 Blog

Today’s guest post is from Jane, who is married with three children. Hannah (7) and Ben (5) are her birth children and she has recently adopted Star (4) who has Down’s Syndrome. Here’s her advice on helping birth siblings welcome a new arrival… 1. Involve birth children in the adoption conversation early We first discussed adoption with our birth children approximately two years before Star arrived. In fact we talked to them before we spoke to anyone else. At that …Read More

Surviving Coffee Time

By February 21, 2016 Blog

I love church.  And I love coffee. But post-church coffee? Terrifying. It’s not the people.  Individually, they are LOVELY.  But there’s something about a group. In a small area.  Trying to talk to one another at once. Something that makes me want to stuff my fingers in my ears and lie down in a darkened room.  On an island. In space. You’re trying to connect deeply/make small talk but Billy is practising on the drums and you can’t remember that lady’s name even though you’ve …Read More

Abba and Babba

By February 9, 2016 Blog

I’m afraid my daughter takes after me. Tell her she can’t have something and straight away, she wants it. The jagged rock. The rusty tin-opener.  The kitchen cleaner. Today we’ve lurched from one potential disaster to another.   DON’T PUT YOUR FINGERS IN THE PLUG NO, THAT’S THE CAT’S ANGRY FACE GIVE THE KNIFE TO MUMMY WHAT’S THAT IN YOUR MOUTH?  SPIT IT OUT RUBY, SPIT IT OUT   Surrounded by stacking rings, spoons, story books, shape sorters, bubbles, blocks and balls, she wants …Read More

Rules of Parenting

By February 1, 2016 Blog

My parents are baby-sitting my daughter tomorrow. So I’ve left them instructions.   Rules of Parenting: 1. Don’t make her wear a hat or coat – especially if it’s cold outside.  She might catch a cold, but suffering is good and will develop her character. 2.  If she gets sick, don’t give her medicine.  She can get better if she believes she can. 3. Always give her exactly what she wants.  For example, if she wants to play near the fire, let …Read More