On Self-Esteem

By September 16, 2012 Blog

Been chatting recently about the issue of ‘self-esteem’ and I’d love to know what you make of it. I find it a difficult topic to address because it comes laden with so much cultural baggage.  I tend to use other phrases – like identity or acceptance, because it’s easier than having to take on the raft of associations (both positive and negative) that surround it. I think it’s vital that we see the enormous worth that Jesus gives us – independent of …Read More

Self-Talk

By May 24, 2012 Blog

Two examples of self-talk: (sorry, some swearing in both)   Share…

Reflections

By April 3, 2012 Blog, identity

I spent part of last week with a group of beautiful, beautiful girls. Inside and out.  Yet almost without exception, each one was painfully self-conscious and self-critical. If they talked about others the way they described themselves, they’d make the grim reaper look cuddly. Looking at these girls, I wanted to hold up a mirror and yell ‘You’re gorgeous! Why can’t you see it?’ I thought wistfully of myself when I was at the same stage.  If the sixteen year-old …Read More

Unloveable

By February 21, 2012 Blog, identity

  In some ways, I don’t want God to love me.  That sounds crazy, but it’s true. I complain He doesn’t want all of me, but I won’t let Him past the hallway into the dark bits – where I need Him most. I keep Him on the outskirts, because if He comes in He’ll see me and I can’t have that. I’m frightened of God’s love because it opens me up to hope.  That hope will break me if …Read More

What’s Your Net Worth?

By April 4, 2011 Blog

Where do we get our values?  Who or what tells us that we’re ok, that we ‘fit’? And when it comes to the crunch, whose opinions really matter? We might think we’ve left peer pressure behind with the classroom, but perhaps we’re just older versions of the same sheep.  In fact, maybe the ‘herd mentality’ has an even stronger influence in a culture where we’re inescapably plugged into each other’s lives. From what we wear, to our favourite bands and …Read More