Redemption Song

By October 26, 2015 Blog

Here’s an interview I did for Songs of Praise, (my bit’s about ten mins in). Thank you much for all your prayers and support.  They are HUGELY appreciated. CLICK HERE       Image source   Share…

Cull Your Friends?

By November 26, 2014 Blog

Here’s the theory.  Christmas is approaching. Cards are expensive – and friends can be too. But the good news is, you don’t have to put up with it. You don’t have to put up with Them.   The ones who have been sick for a boringly long time. The ones who ask for more than they give. The ones whose situation has changed; lost their job and can’t afford to buy a round. Had kids and can’t get a babysitter. Marriage break-up …Read More

Parenting Porkies

By November 25, 2014 Blog

At this stage in pregnancy, I’m thinking less of perfect parenting than damage limitation. I keep telling Glen, he’s got to be normal enough for us both. Nonetheless, I’ve been doing a bit of market research on the parenting business – and I’m struck by how fraught with guilt it can easily become. Breast-feeding (Because “Mother Nature” knows best and anything else is short-changing your child) versus Bottle (Because Mummy needs flexibility and Daddy must pull his weight too) Disposable nappies versus …Read More

Hold On

By November 24, 2014 Blog

There are lots of things we might be tempted to give up on: looking for a job a (really boring but worthwhile) book reconciliation with someone who’s hurt us or whom we’ve hurt a work project – like setting up a business a personal project – getting fit or building a shed a family relationship a marriage ourselves It’s hard to hope when that hope is repeatedly dashed.  It’s hard to try when you’re scared of failure.  It’s hard to reach out for fear …Read More

Adoption: Not Second-Best

By October 31, 2014 Blog

In my last post, I wrote about infertility and IVF, but this is only one of many options. I was reminded of this in a brilliant comment by Ruth, who argues that adoption/fostering is at the heart of what it means to be a Christian; and worth considering before, (or alongside), other treatments. She’s very kindly allowed me to share some of her own experiences; and offers wise advice on how to relate to others in this situation.  Thank you Ruth. She writes: “It …Read More

Unexpected Answers

By October 17, 2014 Blog

God’s time-frame is not ours. And sometimes, He answers our prayers, a little later than we expect. When I was nine or ten, I entered a competition that our primary school was running with Belfast zoo. ZOO!  ZooZooZooZooZoo. I LOVE zoos: and Belfast was the BEST. To enter, you had to write a poem about the new baby kangaroos. The winners would then get to visit them with the class, and – get this – give them kangaroo names. I felt sick just thinking about it. So, I …Read More

Scrambled Eggs

By September 2, 2014 Blog

Today has been an Anxious day.  My brain is the consistency of soggy Weetabix and even the littlest things have seemed a bit much. Someone knocked over my coffee and I jumped half a foot. My eggs exploded in the microwave. The washing-line collapsed: and me along with it. None of this matters.  In fact, there’s more here to be thankful for than worried about. (Coffee! Scrambled eggs! Microwaves! Clean washing! BRILLIANT) But – underneath are the things that do matter.  The Real Worries. …Read More

In Defense of Dawkins

By August 21, 2014 Blog

Last night we felt our baby kick. Except that, of course, it’s not a baby. It’s a fetus. A potential  life – which is apparently very different.  For one thing, he (or she) must earn the right to exist.  If that child is flawed  or substandard; if the foot that nudged my husband’s hand is say, deformed  or misshapen, well obviously we have the right to withdraw all protection and care. In fact, it’s our moral duty to do so. Yesterday, a woman tweeted Richard Dawkins with these words, …Read More

Sex. Life.

By August 18, 2014 Blog

A single friend, who’s attracted to girls, came to me recently. She’s a Christian and believes that Christ loves and accepts her as she is. She also believes that the Bible prohibits a sexual relationship with someone of the same gender. I prayed with her and we talked together about what the Bible says and about the struggles she is facing. Another single friend, who’s attracted to boys, also asked my advice. She’s a Christian and believes that Christ loves and …Read More

Happy Mother’s Day?

By March 28, 2014 Blog

Mother’s Day can be a tough one for many different reasons. … Some of us have mums, but not the mums we wanted. Some have mums we don’t talk to – or who don’t talk to us. Some of us have lost the mums we have: They’re here – but not the way they were.  Or perhaps – they’re not even here. … Some of us want children but don’t have them. Some of us have children, but had to …Read More