Bigger Than Despair

By March 31, 2012 Blog

Writing in the Guardian today, Bibi Lynch talks honestly (and painfully) about her struggle with childlessness. If this is a live issue for you, it might be too hard to read, but it does give an insight into the despair and frustration that can accompany it.  She says: ‘Being a mum has its difficulties – but they are finite and surmountable.  If you haven’t had a child, that devastating problem can never be solved…You feel you have lost your identity? …Read More

Freedom – Guest Post

By March 28, 2012 Blog, identity

It might be surprising to know, but I was a pastor in a church for almost 5 years and I have to say, today, I have never felt spiritually lower. I’m not having a crisis of faith. I know Jesus is Lord, I know Jesus is the Son of God; I can declare loudly that he is coming and he is King. But he has become more of an acquaintance than a friend. I think that has happened because I …Read More

Beyond Body Mass

By March 26, 2012 Blog

Thanks  to everyone who’s shared their wisdom and experiences on eating disorders.  We’re  running the training evenings tomorrow and Thursday evening and I’m feeling a bit nervous. I guess it’s one thing telling your own story, but another to suggest ways of helping other people. If you have any spare prayers, I would really appreciate them. The more I speak with other sufferers and reflect on my own experiences, the more convinced I become that true recovery relies upon Christ. …Read More

Last Words

By March 21, 2012 Blog, identity

‘Yes, but not too much‘,  Dutch poet Gerrit Achterberg, in response to his wife’s question: ‘Shall I bake some fried potatoes?’ (he died of a heart attack). ‘Don’t let me die like this, say I said something’. Emiliano Zapata), Mexican revolutionary during the Mexican Revolution. ‘The best of all is: God is with us’. John Wesley. ‘Am I dying, or is this my birthday?’ Lady Nancy Astor. Die, my dear doctor, that’s the last thing I shall do!’ Henry John Temple, 3rd Viscount …Read More

Fire-Fighting with a Water Gun

By March 20, 2012 Blog

I’m writing a training evening for church leaders on ‘Eating Disorders’. And I’m not quite sure what to say. Here’s what I think people (including me!) want to hear.  A short explanation of what eating disorders are and who they impact.  A description of the warning signs.  The names of specialists who’ll deal with the messy bits. A list of practical suggestions on how to support those affected. The problem – and then the solution. I’ve got these things in …Read More

Dealing In Grace

By March 19, 2012 Blog

Dear God I spotted you across the way on Sunday morning and waved, but not sure you saw me.  Sorry I couldn’t stop, but the roast was in the oven and I wanted to make the most of the sunshine: I’m sure you understand! Maybe we can put a date in for Easter when life’s a little less crazy. Anyway, hope Jesus and the rest of the crew are doing well.  As requested, here’s my monthly update – not as …Read More

Mother’s Day. Ouch.

By March 18, 2012 Blog, identity

It’s just one day.  For goodness’ sake: there are another 364 potential not mother’s celebrations, right? Okay, that’s not helping. So, how to get through this one? Is it possible to wring a genuine sense of peace from a heart that’s currently sucking on a lemon?.. Seems to me I’ve got a few options: 1. Despair (Very appealing): I’m not pregnant.  That’s terrible.  I’m terrible.  I can’t cope.  I’ve screwed up my life and my biology and everything I touch …Read More

Can You Help?

By March 16, 2012 Blog

It’s tempting to assume that churches are full of people who’ve got it together.  The Sunday morning freshly-scrubbed faces and starchy smiles that disguise altogether murkier and choppier depths.  The argument  that’s tidied away along with the breakfast dishes – or at least until the final hymn. Everyone else is fine.  You’re the only one with any issues. Of course, this is a nonsense idea.  Church is for those who recognise their need of a Saviour – not those who …Read More

Please let me be Beautiful

By March 14, 2012 Blog, identity

Next week I’m speaking at a conference  entitled ‘Beautiful‘. When you hear that word, what springs to mind?  A sunset? A film star? A family member or a friend? Would you ever apply it to yourself? I’m guessing the answer is a resounding ‘no’. In fact, I’d go further.  I wonder if just the idea of being referred to in this way makes you laugh. – Beautiful?  Me?  You must be Joking. Except that, it’s not  funny.  The opposite.  When …Read More

What is prayer? [A Guest Post by Glen]

By March 13, 2012 Uncategorized

– Does it change anything? – Why bother if He already knows what I need? – Should I pray for this, it seems so small? – Should I pray for that, I feel so unworthy? – Can I pray now, I’ve really blown it? – How on earth do I actually talk to God? Prayer.  It must be the hardest thing in the world. As a preacher I know it’s the quickest way to get my listeners shuffling in their pews.  Mention …Read More