All The Single Fellas

By March 11, 2012 Blog, identity

I’ve got a stonking female Christian friend.  Properly properly gorgeous – inside and out. I’d practically marry her meself. She’s sold out for Jesus, other-centered, humble, funny and a fox to boot. She’s also single  and has been for a while. But nothing’s happening. And it seems like the Christian guys around her tend to opt for one of two approaches. They either: a.) don’t do anything (even though they might be interested) or b.) forge ahead, whilst trying to keep …Read More

International Women’s Day

By March 8, 2012 Blog

It’s International Women’s Day. But is this just another excuse for the card-makers to reap in their profits: or something more? The first IWD was held on March 19, 1911 in Germany, Austria, Denmark and some other European countries. It was organised by German women as a protest against the Prussian king.  Faced with an armed uprising, he had promised reforms, including votes for women. But he didn’t follow through. Here’s how an eye-witness described the day: ‘Germany and Austria …Read More

Bucket List

By March 7, 2012 Uncategorized

A bucket list, as I’m sure you know, is a list of things you’d like to do before you die (or ‘hit the bucket’).  Here’s some of mine;   road trip with my hubby take communion with my family perform ‘Goldfinger’ wearing Shirley Bassey wig and all-in-one gold lame go to La Tomatina festival in Spain tell my old Sunday school teacher how imp0rtant he was to me have a baby put my hand print in wet concrete walk on …Read More


By March 6, 2012 Blog

‘Stop struggling.  You’re only hurting yourself’. ‘You wanted it, though’. ‘This is a test. If you tell Mom we will both know you cannot be trusted’. ‘I love you’. ‘Good girl’. ‘If you tell anyone, I’ll kill myself’. ‘Close your eyes.  This might hurt a bit’. ‘Prove it’.   These are the words that were said to victims of sexual assault by their abusers. They’ve been highlighted as part of a campaign called Project Unbreakable, whose images have made headlines …Read More

Worship at the Morgue

By March 5, 2012 Blog, identity

We become what we worship. And we’re all worshippers. So if I worship a block of wood, then I’ll become unyielding and dumb. And if I worship food – I’ll always be hungry. It’s creation turned upside-down: instead of us imaging God, we make him in our likeness. We distort his gifts and  look to them to provide us with meaning, identity, purpose and life. The shape of each person’s idolatry looks different – but the same dynamics are at …Read More

Manmade God

By March 4, 2012 Blog

What kind of God do we trust? Is He Personal or a cloud of divine stuff? If Personal, then in what sense? An angry Father, selfish and demanding?  A foreman, under pressure and understaffed? Does He wake us with a divine to-do list, drumming his fingers impatiently whilst we mess up our tasks? Does He need us: to bolster his ego, to do stuff and supply what He lacks? Do we need Him: or is salvation just a synonym for …Read More

Sinking Self

By March 2, 2012 Blog, identity

Here’s a line from one of my favourite poets, Denise Riley: ‘the eyes of the girls are awash with violets pansies are flowering under their tongues they are grouped by the edge of the waves and are anxious to swim and each one is on fire with a passion to achieve herself.’ This passion – to achieve oneself – is something that burns within us all, though I suspect teenage girls feel it most intensely. It’s fed by our longings, …Read More

Step Away from the Mobile

By March 1, 2012 Uncategorized

It’s traditional at Lent to give something up.  I haven’t done this – but have been thinking about the things in my life that overstep their boundaries. Top of the list is my mobile phone.  I panic when we’re separated. At night, I stroke it and fall asleep bathed in its warm neon glow.  It’s the first face that greets me in the morning, with a cheery puuuurrrrrrrrt puuuurrrrrrrrrrt and throughout the day, it flashes me reassurance – I’m loved, …Read More