1. Thou shalt not miss meals. (Doesn’t matter if other folks do; they probably don’t have a history of EDs and anyway, this is about you getting healthy, not minimum requirements).
2. Don’t overexercise. (If your need to exercise is interfering with daily life, it’s an issue). Plus, if you’re low weight, the more you exercise the more you need to eat to get better. That’s an extra challenge you can probably do without.
3. Step away from the scales: don’t weigh yourself- and certainly not more than once a week,( too easy to cut back or panic)
4. Donate to charity clothes that start to feel a little tight, (seriously. You don’t want them looking at you and you don’t want to go backwards)
5. Invest (for a temporary period) in stretchy fabrics, (helps with bloating and feeling generally meh. These are not forever, but they help until your body stabilises). As time goes on and you eat regular meals, your appetite will settle down too. But give it time.
6. Don’t compare yourself to a twig. Or your old ‘skinny’ self. Look at healthy curvy folks and normal bodies. They have bumps and sticky-out bits and those bits rock just as much as the rest of them. (If you’re arty, check out life-drawing as a reminder of what a real body looks like)
7. Celebrate weight gain. It’s a bloody good thing. It’s moving you to health and vitality and setting you free from all kinds of slaveries. It’s hard but you are doing it. Well done.
8. Let people in and talk out the feelings. Don’t give them airtime when you’re on your own (and especially not within a half mile radius of any red wine)
9. Read the promises of God and learn a couple. Carry them round in your wallet. When the bad thoughts crowd in, hit them with these.
10. Remember that sometimes the worse you feel, the better you’re doing. This is what it takes to fight an addiction. You’re doing it. You’re not alone. And you just need to do today.
What helps you?