New Year (One Day At A Time)

By December 31, 2013 Blog

Happy New Year one and all! It was fancy dress, ok. Here’s the most read posts from 2013: Happy Clappy? Are evangelicals more prone to depression? Two reasons why no, two reasons why yes. Why I Go To Church (But not the gym) 40 reasons why I love local church Hard Day News of our second failed round of a modified (and very complicated) IVF. Last Night News of the death of our triploidy child. Depression and Christmas How to face the festive season …Read More

Help Needed

By December 27, 2013 Blog

I don’t believe in resolutions.  I’ve worked really hard at self-improvement and it made me proud and unhappy and worse than when I started. But I do believe in prayer.  And here’s some things I’m praying God will help me do: be a beginner be still do (some) things I ‘just don’t do’ act (sometimes) like I’m not me ask for help make mistakes without condemning myself make mistakes without excusing myself try for a bit longer on things that …Read More

Christmas Is Here: Don’t Panic

By December 24, 2013 Blog

Tomorrow You won’t be destroyed if you break your routines.  In fact, you might be blessed. Think of Mary, delivering her firstborn in a shed – far from home and in a place she didn’t know.  Sometimes these are the places God shows up. When the turkey explodes and the family start griping; it’s all okay. God’s in the mess. God’s also in you. You’re not your 13 year old self. You might feel the same emotions, but you’re not …Read More

Santa vs Jesus

By December 23, 2013 Blog

This is what I live with.  Happy Christmas! Share…FacebookTwitterTumblrPinterestStumbleUponDiggemail

Christmas and Alcohol

By December 20, 2013 Blog

If you work for the emergency services, then today is what’s known as ‘Mad Friday’. As folks finish work and let off steam for the holidays, one pint can turn into seven…and there’s a massive increase in calls and hospital admissions. It’s especially tough if you’re working in the UK; alcohol consumption increases by 40% in December – and we’re already top of the leader board. Psychologists call it ‘legitimised deviancy’ – basically get-out-of-jail-free days, when the rules of normal human …Read More

Depression and Christmas

By December 19, 2013 Blog

Let’s face it, there’s never a great time for depression.  But Christmas can be especially hard. So, 1. Be aware of this.  It’s not just you.  You are not going crazy.  Everyone else is not having the Best Time Ever with their Perfect Pet/Partner/Brussel Sprouts. It might look that way, but that’s because you’ve forgotten to.. 2. Stay away from social media, (or get one of those apps that replaces shots of babies/engagements with grinches/dolphins in santa hats).  No, Really. …Read More

Why You’ll Never Be Good Enough

By December 18, 2013 Blog

Something to think about if you’re wondering why you don’t look like them. Share…FacebookTwitterTumblrPinterestStumbleUponDiggemail

Surviving Christmas with an ED

By December 17, 2013 Blog

Christmas is a hard for time for lots of folks – not least those with eating disorders.  For starters, you’re often in a family setting.  This is lovely in some ways, but claustrophobic in others. Even though you (and they) may have changed, it’s remarkable how quickly everyone reverts to their stereotypes.  If you’ve a history of eating issues, that’s a lot of unspoken baggage, scrutiny and extra tension  – there is nowhere to hide. If you’re struggling and folks …Read More

Just The Tonic

By December 16, 2013 Blog

I’ve got a bit of a lurgy. Sitting in the doctor’s surgery today, I was leafing through magazines. The doctor didn’t give me any meds, but this story from an old copy of ‘Yours’, did the same job: It’s the story of a friendship between Paula, a 30 year-old single Christian, and Ann, who she met through church. Ann had been brought up in foster care and hadn’t had an easy life. Paula realised she needed a good friend and …Read More

Locked In and Locked Out

By December 13, 2013 Blog

Yesterday I went to prison to give my testimony. Sixteen doors, locking behind me. Quiet footsteps echoing down the landings – and then – suddenly, a burst of noise. Voices spilling into the corridor. A roomful of women – like me, but not like me. I take my seat in the circle. I push back into the brickwork.  I listen.  And then – gradually,  I speak. I talk about growing up in Northern Ireland.  In a nice middle-class home, with …Read More