1. I’ve been working really hard and I deserve a break. (Sorry, but no. Good on you for working hard; but the thing you want a break from is a life-dominating whirlpool of addiction that will suck you down if you dip your toe in).
2. I can handle it. (You can’t. It’s bigger than you – which is why you need Jesus and other people and all the support you can get).
3. I’ve learned from my mistakes. (Great! So don’t make the biggest one of all – complacency)
4. What’s the harm in…? (Ask this question of your loved ones. What has it cost you already? What has it cost them?)
5. Other people can do it. (You are not other people. Their life is not yours, their weaknesses are not yours and their rules are not yours).
6. I’m sick of this: it’s all too much. (No. It’s hard; very hard – but your addiction is harder. That’s the thing that’s too much).
7. I deserve my old habit. (Deserve what? A habit that is killing you? An addiction that steals you from God, the world and yourself? It’s not “freedom” – it’s a death sentence.
8. Other people don’t understand. (Or is it that they understand all too well – and are threatening what you want?)
9. I’m too tired and it’s too much. (I’m sorry you’re tired. And I’m sorry life is so busy. But this is your priority – all the other stuff can wait).
10. I’m angry and annoyed and stressed and burnt-out. ( These make you vulnerable to temptation; but they are not reasons for it. Acknowledge them: talk them out and pray them. Don’t channel them into old behaviours).
11. This is how I cope with life. (No. The old you might have used it. But you’re different now. This is not what you do any more. It’s not you).
12. I’m too ashamed to admit I need help. (There is absolutely no shame in asking for help. Shame comes when we try to do it alone – and fail.)
13. But I’m still not happy. (Life in recovery is not perfect. But it’s not hellish either. There will be ups and downs – but these are part of normal life. Stick with it – it takes time to rebuild life and relationships).
14. I’ve passed the point of no return. (Stop. Right now. And turn around. This is the point of return. There is grace and forgiveness when you ask for help).