It might be an out and out addiction. Or a habit that’s becoming something more. Either way, it’s got you – and here’s what it whispers…
1. I can’t do it.
– Yes you can. But see point 2…
2. I can do it alone.
– You can’t – no-one can.
3. It’s gonna be easy.
– It may well be the hardest thing you’ve ever done…but also the most worthwhile. Long-term, the alternative is much, much harder.
4. It’s not worth it.
– Worth what? Your relationships? Your health? Your finances? Your future? Your identity? All these things are in the balance. So yes, it’s worth it.
5. Now’s not a good time.
– Tomorrow is harder. And the day after that, harder still.
6. Nothing and no-one is more important than my issues.
– They’re important – and you’ll need lots of support and understanding. But that doesn’t give you permission to act like a jerk. In fact, the mindset that says there’s only you and your pain, is part of the problem.
7. It should be instant and dramatic.
– It may well be – and if so, praise God! But it’s more likely to take time and sweat and stumbles – battle by battle, step by step.
8. Someone will come and rescue me if I just wait.
– The Lord will strengthen and empower you. Other people will help carry you and cheer you on. But it will never be a case of just lying there and waiting till you feel better – you gotta fight too.
9. If I stumble, I may as well give up.
– No – this is part of moving forwards. Those mistakes are a chance to regroup, learn and adapt.
10. I’m the exception. I won’t get addicted / harmed / found out.
– That’s magical thinking. The rules apply to everyone: even you.
11. My problems only hurt me.
– Our problems cloud our perception – so we can’t trust ourselves. You are almost certainly harming others. And even if no-one on earth knows or cares, Jesus does.
12. It’s shameful to ask for help.
– It’s brave and praiseworthy.
13. I’ve mucked it all up too much to go back.
14. I’m too successful to be addicted.
– You can be high-functioning and still be in danger.
15. Getting better means getting rid of all my problems.
– No – but it means you’re working on what really matters.
16. I have to be perfect whatever I face.
– No – that’s Jesus. But He’s working in us, whatever we face.