Here’s My Heart

By May 27, 2012 Blog, identity

At the moment, my parents are reading my book. Here it is, I said.  A ring-bound folder of My Life. It was hard to write.  But  for them, it’s even harder to read. I at least, had a choice in telling my story.  But however much I try to honour and protect them, it’s theirs as well. Our family, laid bare. The tapestry of our history.  The thoughts and experiences that unspoken, bind us together and tear us apart. Is this …Read More

Mum’s The Word. And Dad. And Grandma, and…

By April 26, 2012 Blog

Yesterday I was thinking a little about church family.  Today, I’m pondering the complicated splendour that is Family Family. And more specifically, Family Communications. Aah,  genealogy. That bloody, brilliant and brutal tapestry comprising drunken uncles and giddy aunts, skeletons in the closet (and under the floorboards), unspoken rivalries, scandal-scented moth balls, feral pets and all manner of crazy traditions, routines and general shenanigans. Not that you’d guess.  No sireee.  Aside from the occasional dark hint it’s like the rumbling of …Read More

Fathers and Daughters

By April 9, 2012 Blog

When I was a little girl, there was no-one who could touch my dad.  In a confusing and threatening world, he was the still centre.  When he held me in his arms, no-one could hurt me.  Nothing could take me from him. My dad did a great job and I wouldn’t swap him for the world. But one of the hardest parts of growing up was the discovery that my dad was human – he didn’t have all the answers, …Read More

Happy Families

By December 28, 2011 Blog

Is it just me … or does your family also have a complex system of unwritten rules that everyone obeys, even if no-one says them aloud?  Rules about who you are and where you fit and what is and isn’t acceptable and how things are or aren’t done. In our house for example, we work as a team.  Nothing, but nothing happens, without a family summit.  Lost your socks?  Let’s huddle.  Got a rash? Let ME Take a look. Jar …Read More

Father Hunger

By July 8, 2011 Blog, identity

I’ve been listening to a fascinating talk by Tim Keller on Genesis 27.  This deals with the story of Esau and Jacob.  Esau is the older son and as such is the rightful inheritor of his father’s blessing. But Jacob, his brother, deceives his father into blessing him instead. Keller argues that all of us are shaped by the same desire for blessing.  We are hungry for someone who knows us, to look into our lives and speak words of …Read More

The Parent Trap

By June 10, 2011 Uncategorized

They muck you up your parents.  They (probably) don’t mean to, but … One of my friends greeted the arrival of their daughter’s first period by announcing to friends ‘our little girl’s become a woman’. Glen tells me that his mum sent him off to college with the ringing valediction of, ‘Fly Glen, fly..’  Mine packed me off to school with a bowl haircut and skirt, three sizes too big, ‘to grow into’. On one of my first dates, Dad …Read More