I Thought It Was Just Me

By December 27, 2014 Blog

Thank God for friends who are honest. It’s like gulping down fresh air when you’ve been stuck in a lift. A big jug of iced water when you’re melting in the heat. Or finally letting out your breath when you hadn’t realised you’d been holding it. The overwhelming, exhilarating relief of it.  ‘You too? I thought it was just me.’ And not because your situations are necessarily identical.  Or you’re facing exactly the same struggles.  No, it’s something else. The joy of letting down …Read More

Thanks Mate

By October 30, 2012 Blog

So often I look at my life and think it’s a total mess, and nothing will ever change.  But that’s not true – for me, or for you. It is changing – and it has changed…it’s just that, stuck in the detail, that’s hard to see. I think this is one reason why God puts us in community. I know you struggle.    Me too!  But our friendship matters.  Not because you’ve got solutions or brilliant advice. Because you’re messy.  Because you’re real. Because when …Read More

I Carried A Watermelon

By July 17, 2012 Blog

How do you make friends? That’s a genuine question. Social situations (at least for me), are like watching cricket: I’ve learned to clap in the right places, but sometime I still haven’t a clue what’s going on. I’m getting better, but I struggle. Where do people learn to do this stuff?  Smiling and breathing and talking, all at the same time. Putting jokes in appropriate places.  Making the right noises.  The fine head angle between ‘I’m interested’ and ‘I’m a stalker’. …Read More

Front Row Friendship

By April 27, 2012 Blog

Making friends is Really Hard. Not acquaintances.  Or mates.  Not people you know or wave at across the street.  Proper friends – the ones who know more about you than where you work or how many kids you’ve got. The ones who can spot when you’re about to crumble, who’ll sweep you up and stick you back together. You see, it’s relatively easy to befriend people on Facebook. To link them in or add them to your contacts list.   …Read More