The Creepy Intimacy We All Want

By February 13, 2014 Blog

‘The crowning ambition in my life is to be able to be with another person.  That’s all we all want.  We say we want world peace, but in truth we want to be totally exposed in front of someone who says, ‘Actually, you’re all right.’ The creepy intimacy of really knowing someone and them really knowing me…I would be incredibly sad if I got to the end of my days and didn’t have that.” (Sue Perkins, Interview with The Times, …Read More

Ways To Say I Love You (Without Buying A Card)

By February 12, 2014 Blog

Right.  Valentine’s.  We’re going to look at it very briefly and then never speak of it again. Think of it as pre-emptive strike: it’s too dangerous to wait till Friday. Love is not a matching set of bra and knickers or a plastic rose.  Nor is it the exclusive preserve of hot young lovers. It’s emptying the bins as much as a violins. And there are 364 other days in which to show it. So.  Here’s some ways to tell …Read More

Just The Tonic

By December 16, 2013 Blog

I’ve got a bit of a lurgy. Sitting in the doctor’s surgery today, I was leafing through magazines. The doctor didn’t give me any meds, but this story from an old copy of ‘Yours’, did the same job: It’s the story of a friendship between Paula, a 30 year-old single Christian, and Ann, who she met through church. Ann had been brought up in foster care and hadn’t had an easy life. Paula realised she needed a good friend and …Read More

Can We Skip The 14th?

By February 14, 2013 Blog

Does anyone – ANYONE – like Valentine’s Day? My plan was to ignore it.  But It has come to me. Fliers from the  curry house. ‘Free roses with every balti’. ’80s Love fever’ c/o the local pub. heart-shaped cushions and cookie-cutters from Lakeland. And then I toddled unwittingly into the lovechild of  Disney and David Lynch – aka Sainsburys. Balloons,overpriced roses, chocolates, champagne, (edible) underwear, cuddly toys. Love songs on loop and ‘poetry’ that makes me want to hunt down …Read More

What Matters

By November 15, 2012 Blog

It’s so hard to think that God might love us, isn’t it? And yet – He Already does, whatever we do or however we feel. No matter where you’re at now or where you have been, He loves you utterly and completely. That’s hard to hear and it’s hard to believe, but it’s the truth. Don’t listen to the lies. Listen to Him. To the love that is terrible and beautiful, unquenchable and unending. He chose us: “You are a …Read More

Love Is Not Enough

By June 28, 2012 Blog, identity

Little words have the power to build us up or to blow us apart. Yesterday a friend was telling me about how her life was shaped by something her mum told her; ‘I love you, but I don’t like you’. Those words weren’t spoken maliciously or with any intention to harm. But they were verbal grenades – and left a legacy of exhaustion, depression and self-hatred. … So often, this is how I think about Jesus. He loves me, but …Read More

Love Rats

By December 1, 2011 Blog

I read a comment recently from actress Rachel Weizs on the subject of love.  She said this: ‘You can’t help who you fall in love with.  It just happens’. I’m afraid I disagree. ‘Love’ is not a silent assassin that sneaks up beneath you, brandishes a pistol and marches you off at gunpoint. It’s not a force that sweeps you off your feet, regardless of existing commitments. Love is more like a series of little decisions, most of which start …Read More

The Mothership Arrives

By November 16, 2011 Blog

It’s three am. Where am I? Not where I should be.  Not tucked up in bed, snoozing. Not spooning my husband. Or counting sheep. Nope, I’m on the kitchen floor, cleaning under the cooker. This will sound bonkers, until I explain that today, My Mum is Coming. In the last hour I have: 1.re-painted part of the kitchen wall. 2. developed a comprehensive sorting system for my underwear. (Off-white, grey and less grey). 3. raided the fridge. (Less said about this the better, but …Read More