Porn: What lies beneath

By October 3, 2016 Blog

Guest post by Glen (based on this earlier article) How does porn impact a young girl who discovers her father’s stash?  Michelle VanLoon writes about it in My Father The Porn Addict.  This sentence struck me more than any other: Porn taught me that the single most important thing to grown-ups was this mysterious world of fantasy, pain, and animalistic impulses too powerful to ignore. Porn peddles a lie that becomes “the single most important thing” for those who buy into …Read More

The Problem with Porn

By November 9, 2014 Blog

1.Nearly two-thirds of Christian men view porn on a monthly basis (source) 2. One in ten Christian women view porn on a monthly basis. Broken down by age group, women between the ages of 31 and 49 were revealed to be the most active pornography viewers with 42 percent, or four out of 10, watching at least monthly (source) 3. 90% of 8-16 year olds have watched porn online.  The average age for first viewing is 11 (source: Gail Dines-  see end of …Read More

Sex. Life.

By August 18, 2014 Blog

A single friend, who’s attracted to girls, came to me recently. She’s a Christian and believes that Christ loves and accepts her as she is. She also believes that the Bible prohibits a sexual relationship with someone of the same gender. I prayed with her and we talked together about what the Bible says and about the struggles she is facing. Another single friend, who’s attracted to boys, also asked my advice. She’s a Christian and believes that Christ loves and …Read More

The Sex Issue

By March 17, 2014 Blog

(Given the topic, I thought I’d do this post with Glen): Recently, Glen was chatting to a guy with a serious girlfriend.  ‘Man,’ said the guy, ‘I’m really struggling with purity issues. I’ve got all these pent-up feelings and it’s hard holding off’. He took a sip of his pint, ‘Y’know?’ Glen did know.  And so did his wife.  But Glen asked a question: “Do you think marriage will solve those problems?” “Yes! Wait: you’re saying it won’t?” This time …Read More

Too Much Information

By July 3, 2012 Blog

Sex. Yep, said it. Sex sex sexy sex sex. See how relaxed I am about this issue? (Changes tone from squeaky to deep). That’s because, like everyone else, I have found physical intimacy to be a wonderful and easy part of marriage.  Natural. Simple. Cosmic union of body and soul; just like in the movies. Except like, more profound.  This ole negligee – hey baby, I just threw it on. Sorry, having problems typing round my expanding nose. Where was …Read More

Sacred Food

By December 12, 2011 Blog

Much as it pains me to admit it, perhaps Gillian McKeith’s got one thing right: we are what we eat – or even, what we don’t eat. I was reminded of this by a brilliant article in the Sunday Observer, ‘Let’s End Our Obsession With Making Food Sexy‘, by Steven Poole.  The piece was inspired in part by the furore surrounding Nigella Lawson’s cover shoot on ‘Stylist’ (pictured), where she’s covered in toffee sauce. Poole writes; ‘The fact that food-talk …Read More

They Grow Up So Fast

By November 3, 2011 Blog

Stuck for something to do with the kids this weekend? Well, fret no more. Why not take ’em to Northampton – and the ‘Make Me Fabulous’ pole-dancing studio.  There, your four year-old can while away the hours with classes training them in the essential art of ‘holding their legs in a V-shape while sliding down a pole’. Not convinced? Well, maybe you oughta loosen up. As the site reminds us, ‘you were born with wings – don’t ever forget to …Read More

Women and Porn

By April 18, 2011 Blog

Six out of ten women view internet porn. However you package it, that’s quite a stat, (Guardian, 7 April, 2011 ). It is not a minor issue and nor is it confined to men. I’ve rarely heard it addressed in the secular media, let alone in a Christian context. Yet it’s a huge problem – particularly for the 17 per cent of women who claim to be ‘addicted’ to porn. (Internet Filter survey, 2006 ). And not just outside the church. A …Read More

What Men Want

By March 22, 2011 Blog

It’s Glen here.  I’ve wrested the keyboard from Emma for this one. Recently I’ve heard of worrying numbers of Christian women speaking furtively, fleetingly, but no less seriously about plastic surgery – botox, lipo, boob jobs, face lifts. Let me speak on behalf of 3 billion members of the human race.  Stop.  Cease.  Desist.   And not because blokes don’t care about physical attraction.  Of course we do.  Stop because you’re fueling the ugliest thing in the world – insecurity. And …Read More

When Desires become Demands

By February 3, 2011 Blog

Yesterday we were thinking about whether or not eating disorders are linked to a loss of modesty and rise in promiscuity, (as argued by Wendy Shalit).  However, the  actress Portia de Rossi claims in her autobiography, that sexual repression triggered her anorexia. When de Rossi told her mother that she was attracted to women, her mum said that it was wrong and something to be ashamed of. As an actress, she also felt under pressure to keep her sexuality hidden, …Read More